ADHD coach improves focus
Growing up in Edmonton, Alberta, Pete Quily always did well in school, even though he found it hard to finish some assignments. He procrastinated, was easily distracted, and had trouble managing his time. It wasn’t until he was in his early 30s and living in B.C. that he happened to notice a poster in a library that had a list of signs of attention deficit disorder on it.
“I read that checklist and just went, ”˜Oh, my God’—check, check, check,” Quily tells the Georgia Straight in a phone interview. “That was me. If you have ADD and you don’t know what it is, life can be very frustrating. I wish I would have found out a lot earlier.”
Part of the reason Quily, who’s now 45, was never suspected of having the neurobehavioural condition—which is marked by sustained patterns of inattention, hyperactivity, and/or impulsivity—was that he succeeded scholastically. Although he did some of his projects at the last minute, he threw himself into others with all his energy and attention. He says that if he found something interesting, he could spend hours concentrating on it.
“It’s a myth that if you have ADD you’re on the verge of dropping out of school,” Quily explains. Although some people with ADD—which is also known as ADHD, for “attention deficit hyperactivity disorder”—have learning disabilities, many others have high intelligence. For proof, Quily points to the MENSA special-interest group for people with ADD that has more than 500 members and successes like that of David Neeleman, who founded JetBlue Airways.
After he learned he had the disorder, Quily researched approaches to managing it and found many that worked for him, including exercise, personal coaching, talk therapy, support groups, and spiritual exploration. He’s come a long way since the early ’90s, when he was diagnosed.
“Back then, it was, ”˜Here’s your Ritalin; here’s your Dexedrine; you’re on your own.’ ”
Quily was lucky just to get a diagnosis. The condition is still widely misunderstood and often either misdiagnosed or missed altogether by doctors.
According to a February 2009 British Columbia Medical Association policy paper, it takes an average of 18 months for a person to be treated for ADD following his initial contact with a doctor, and as few as 11 percent of adults with the condition actually receive treatment. Part of the problem is that few family physicians are qualified to diagnose ADD.
Psychiatrist Derryck Smith explains that the disorder is genetic in about 80 percent of cases. “Twenty-five years ago, the belief was that children grow out of ADHD by age 12,” Smith says on the line from his office. “What started happening was child psychologists would make a diagnosis in a child, then give the family all this information to take home to read. Then the dad would come in and say, ”˜Hey, doc, I think I’ve got this too.’
“Now we know that symptoms persist into adulthood”¦and if you’re born with it, you’ll have it all the way through life.
“With adults, it’s mostly inattention; the hyperactivity and impulsivity tend to reduce.”
In adults, ADD can take a serious toll on multiple aspects of people’s lives. Some have trouble with substance use and abuse, while others get involved in crime. Then there’s the way many handle motor vehicles.
“These people make terrible drivers,” Smith says. “They’re more prone to accidents and are more inclined to speed.”
Furthermore, ADD is linked to an average of 35 missed workdays per year as well as poorer job performance, lower occupational status, and less job stability than those without the condition, according to the BCMA paper.
People with the condition experience other problems when it comes to treatment, which can include behaviour modification and neurofeedback. Simply writing a prescription, however, is “woefully insufficient care”, the BCMA report states. Making matters worse is that ADD often takes a back seat to other mental-health disorders, like anxiety, depression, and psychosis. Many mental-health teams don’t even consider ADD part of their mandate.
When people do take medication, the drug they’re often prescribed needs to be taken several times a day. That’s because B.C. PharmaCare doesn’t fund a long-lasting drug that only needs to be taken once a day. Saskatchewan, Ontario, and Quebec cover or provide restricted access to this pill.
“You’re getting people who are distractible, forgetful, to take meds three times a day? Isn’t that sadistic?” Quily says. “We’re pretty backward here in B.C.
“And what about people who need more than meds, who can’t afford coaching or don’t have extended benefits for psychologists?”¦It’s a condition that the government, the health-care system, doesn’t take seriously.”
What helped Quily the most was personal coaching. He got so much out of the one-on-one sessions, in fact, that he became a coach himself. Now he specializes in helping adults with ADD who, like him, have a natural curiosity but who might be overwhelmed by paper clutter or unable to finish tasks, or find it hard to handle stress.
Quily helps others focus on the positive aspects of ADD. “People with ADD are creative; they think out of the box,” he says. “The thing that bothers me is that ADD is a mixed bag. It can really drag people down if you don’t know how to manage it, but it can propel you to great heights if you do manage it.”¦Coaching helps with the practical, day-to-day challenges: work, relationships, social things”¦time management, underemployment, job-hopping.”¦But there has to be an openness to change.”
Smith applauds the BCMA paper’s call for more services for adults with ADD. “In the medical profession, many people have the mindset of 25 years ago, that it isn’t a problem that affects adults,” he notes. “There’s a big education process we need to undertake.”




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I hope more BC media outlets will start to cover Adult ADHD, it's a well researched serious condition with many negatives AND many positives, and there is currently NO strategy on ADHD in the province, & NONE of the BC political parties are mentioning ADHD during this election, despite the BC Medical Assn policy paper on it.
Just some minor clarifications.
* I didn’t always do well in school, but overall did reasonably well
* ADHD is not a neurobehavioural condition, it’s a neurobiological condition.
* Many ADDers do drop out of school, though not all, and some do very well in it, there are PHd’s with ADHD
* You can have learning disabilities and high intelligence. They’re not mutually exclusive at all. LD has nothing to do with IQ. Some people with LD, like ADDers have very high IQ’s.
* Dr. Derryck Smith is correct that people with ADHD are statistically prone to accidents and speeding, and some are terrible drivers, but not all. Some make their living as professional drivers, and are quite good at it, they hyperfocus when driving. I know adults with ADHD that are bus drivers, limo drivers, stunt drivers, etc and are quite good at it. It’s like there’s statistically much higher rates of alcohol and drug addiction for people with ADHD and society should wake up & deal with this, but we’re not all drug addicts.
Again thanks for covering this issue, I wish more BC media outlets would follow The Georgia Straight's lead on this.
There's more info on Adult ADD at ADDA's website
http://www.add.org
Pete Quily
Adult ADHD Coach
Blog: http://www.adultaddstrengths.com
Web: http://www.addcoach4u.com
I stand corrected on the poor wording regarding ADD, learning disabilities, and intelligence. My mistake.
Re: ADD being a "neurobehavioural" condition; I got that from ADHD.ca, although I should have attributed it as such.
we've all made a few of them, myself definitely included.
Again thanks for helping to bring some much needed awareness to people with adult ADHD, and thanks for showing both sides of the having ADHD.
Some people especially men, stay in denial for long periods of time because some people portray adult ADHD as a 98% negative condition, nearly all pathology so they don't want another "negative label" on them.
But labels are neutral, depends on how you use them, as a weapon to stigmatize, judge, criticize, self righteously condemn, project hate so you hope people don't recognize you probably have ADHD. (many of the hard core ADHD haters/deniers/minimizers often seem to have ADHD).
OR a label that allows you to explain a lot of things that previously seemed unexplainable, and that allows you to access different methods to manage the condition so you and your family have a better quality of life. Basically you can learn from the methods that others used that went before you.
You're definitely right Alison. Many ADHD and LD people are also gifted.
I agree the Attention Doctor, I don't have a deficit of attention, I have a surplus of it, we notice everything. Except of course paperwork and boring things. When I do something I find interesting like ADHD coaching, tech, politics etc I can hyperfocus like a laser. It is more accurate to call it a problem of regulating attention.
Pete Quily
Adult ADD Coach
Blog: http://www.adultaddstrengths.com
Web: http://www.addcoach4u.com
Top 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD
http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/02/21/top-10-ways-to-manage-adult-adhd/
I'm 30 also:)
Bottom line, I have mild symptoms of ADD, do not take medication, have to practice rigorous and daily self-care, and have found coaching with Pete to be invaluable in my self-growth, awareness, and ability to turn this characteristic into a useful asset - but I no longer stigmatize or see ADD as a weakness and am clear that it's genetic in nature.
Pete was able to help me appreciate the gifts of my ADD as well as how I can work best around the challenges to accomplish my goals. Pete has a lot skills to help anyone affected by ADD be more successful and less victimized .
Mark Watts
When I switched doctors recently I told him I had ADD. His first question was if I had been having thoughts of suicide.
As one of Pete's coaching clients, I too can attest to his skill. Not only did he help me get past the negatives of ADD, he helped me recognize and capitalize on the beneficial traits that go along with ADD.
I was just diagnosed with having Neurobehavioral Disorder (alcohol exposed); Severe Attention Dificit Disorder-combined type; Generalized Anxiety Disorder, incl. PTSD and OCD. I pushed for testing through FASSY here in the YUKON. I was taking a Community Support Worker Program part-time at Yukon College and found that the symptoms I was experiencing all these years were on the FASD Spectrum. I did not know if it was FASD or ADD/ADHD or what. I am coming up 55 years of age and If it were not for pushing so hard for this diagnosis, none of us would have known. I've always felt something wasn't quite right with my life. I was recommended to use Concerta and I am now up to 54mg and has helped dramatically. I'm more focused than ever. Organizational skills are being worked on in all directions with help forthcoming. Now we have to find what strategies to use daily. As a child I hated doing things by myself. ADHD piles? I always liked one on one. Criticism was bad for my self esteem and not on the charts in 1995 with LD testing through LDAYukon. Not enough follow through was worked on and I had 4 children with my husband. Their ages were 8, 10, 12, and 14 at that time. I felt like I was the child most of the time and I think my husband was also helping with raising (me) the 5th child!
This year's testing has brought relief for both my husband and I. Our children will now learn how we work through all of this as they observe us and they ask their adult questions and heal too. My life of struggling so hard and with so much frustration that the tears fell and I tired of being the cry baby when things were said to fast for my brain to take in and process and then find yourself way behind the conversations and feeling hurt by the looks people gave me. I've been tired of being out in left field!
Presently I am unemployed as of today. I have no idea what job opportunities lay before me. I love gardening, making and decorating cakes with my creative ideas (taught myself), teaching crochet, being on my computer and various other things. I've taught myself tatting and found someone to help me fine tune this. I love to TYPE. So, I volunteer tutoring at Yukon Learn and LDAY, and wherever else I can and even the CDN Cancer Society. But this does not bring me income. What's next? Disability Pension? Not sure. My time right now is to get better mentally so I can be employed full time again.
LDAY, Yukon Learn, YCOD and FASSY are my supports if I need to talk. There isn't much up here in the YUKON for the adults but more for the children. I dig on my computer to find everything and anything to learn more on my disabilities. I love to help others too but don't want to be pushy either. I get really excited to help whenever needed and my self worth climbs higher. Now, my quality of life will increase and I will be a person first with a disAbility second.
I also agree with Peter Quily that there must be more awareness made to the public and I eventually want to start up a support group for Adults here in the YUKON.
If you do need more information email me at mushtodo@me.com