all or nothing

im 27 and never had a gf and you'd think id be desperate at this point. well i rather be single for the rest of my life than to settle for anything less than my dream girl. i see people like me all the time, once they hit a certain age they just go with whatever they can get. this guy i work with, 40 and has a wife who controls him. she doesn't even allow him to surf youtube. same for career. i rather pursue my passion in life and dream job, and have to work min wage jobs as stepping stones to get there one day, than to waste my time now and go do A B C to land your 40k/yr 9 to 5 and never getting anywhere beyond hating every single minute of my life there i rather die than to live a life not worth living. i hate those who constantly say "its better than nothing" well at some point "better than nothing" seem less than nothing for me
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what about me?

Jan 27, 2013 at 6:57pm

I'm a 53 year old guy & I don't have a gf & believe me it's not that I choose to be single, it's hard meeting women (I do think a women in my age group range is appropriate) I was married but it was a one sided relationship, she had everything under her name, she made all the decisions, she had serious mental illness issues, I guess I was just too lonely & desperate & I had no balls to speak up, assert myself or get out sooner.
So buddy you're still long & will meet a quality women one day & there's a lot of them here in town.

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Jan 27, 2013 at 7:29pm

I'm 22 and never had a boyfriend. I'm surrounded by friends who are dating or on the prowl which causes me to feel inclined to date for "experience". Though, I feel like I'm capable of having a healthy relationship with a partner regardless of the fact that I haven't had a boyfriend yet.

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cul de sac

Jan 27, 2013 at 10:30pm

take a chance; you only go around once.

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Keep it up.

Jan 27, 2013 at 11:39pm

Good spirit.

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Just wait...

Jan 27, 2013 at 11:44pm

...until you hit your mid 30s, and then you might find yourself "settling" too.

Personally, I don't think it's necessarily settling. There's no such thing as a "dream girl", and all relationships are hard. That's the reality; you either accept it or you don't.

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Not every girl is like that.

Jan 28, 2013 at 1:53am

Don't go for a girl who is controlling then?

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Hate to break it to you but...

Jan 28, 2013 at 3:40am

There's no such thing as a "dream girl". You either accept people for who they are, faults and all, or end up very lonely.

I would maybe see a councillor if I were you, it sort of sounds like you have some personal issues to work out. A male your age, unless you're asexual, should be interested in pursuing sexual relationships. Unless of course, you're just constantly having one night stands, which isn't too great either. Whatever you do, good luck.

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Live as what you like.

Jan 28, 2013 at 5:47am

Why we have to behave like majority.
At certain age...
In general...
The patterns that they fit in.

If you were born different, go get what you want.

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Jan 28, 2013 at 8:41am

Your "dream girl" will be freaked out that you are so inexperienced....and run away.

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addicted to quality

Jan 28, 2013 at 11:02am

I completely agree with you. High quality or nothing! Stop junk-love!

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