Guerilla Exuberance
We took over Robson with speakers and turntables, party clothes and dance moves. After a few hours I was feeling light headed so I left on a food run and we exchanged glances as I...
I’m a 27-year-old straight guy who’s been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation without doors closing.


I want to see you again. I know it's not really you, but this terribly fascinating person my mind has invented. Why is it that every time we've talked, we end up debating? Odd to meet someone who stands his ground as much as I do; we always come to a head. Last year, I really wished I could have never seen you again, and you seemed to feel the same way. Staying away was the best decision. Except, what is this meeting again and again? I can't escape you. Do you feel this right now? This little thread that runs between our sweaters, tangled and knotted, this inability to unravel and separate is starting to get annoying. I don't know what to do; I don't think it's sexual, but you intrigue me. Dimensions are crashing into each other; this city isn't big enough for the two of us.
Rating: +2
Wut to do? About 7 years ago I met a woman who I was very fond of. We went on a couple dates and were both casually seeing other people. I really liked her but felt like the other person she was dating was a better fit for her because he was her age and also had children so I stepped aside. In not to long she was in need of a technician for her business and knew a good one was hard to find so she hired me. For a couple years I worked for her and we continued to keep it platonic. I moved away for awhile then came back and got into a serious relationship with a woman who had young kids. The relationship I had ended and now hers is. Now that I know I'm ok with having kids and know myself and her so much better than I did 7 years ago I'm finding myself having strong feelings for her. She has separated from him temporarily and we have been more open and touchy than we've ever been. She has made semi advances on me trying to half cuddle here and there. Do I tell her how I feel? React to her semi advances? Or should I let her completely end things with him before I tell her how I feel?
Rating: +6
I check the "I Saw You" regularly hoping that maybe one of them will be about me.
Rating: +16
I keep an empty plastic bottle next to my bed. If I wake up in the middle of the night needing to pee, I pee in the bottle.
Rating: -25
Flirt with me,yet have rings on their fingers. Whenever I challenge them about the ring,they tell me they're single and it's so guys won't hassle them-yet they complain about guys never approaching them. Going into a pub/bar/club-their body language screams "Fk Off!!" and they wonder why no one stops by for a chat. Only if they want a drink:they flirt and talk,and 2 minutes later expect me to buy them one,which I never do. They go for a "girl's night out" and all they do is have a bitch-fest about guys,cranking out very negative body language-and wonder why guys won't come over and chat. Hold open doors for them,and rarely get more than a vague grunt- I've even been chastised by them for doing so and called a chauvinist pig. Almost every one I end up talking to,within 2 minutes it's "where do you work, rent or own, what car??" So I walk away. I work out every day,hike every weekend,am tall and fit and for some reason those women who could stand to lose from 20 to 100 pounds flirt with me,while my non attractive friends get ignored. Oh,the hypocrisy. Have been many places in the world,and get lots of attention and approaches by friendly women just wanting to chat. Yet here, get treated like lepers for doing so...yet women complain that guys never approach. So-I gave up trying,keep working long hours on my business,ignore them completely, and in a couple years will be retired at 31. And I will NOT be seeking any locals out,will find a foreign woman who wants to enjoy life with me.
Rating: -23
But only with someone from 20 years ago in my past who I can find no sign of no matter how much Googling I do. So my marriage is safe.
Rating: -11
I read a lot, watch a lot of documentaries, and listen to some great music, but I feel like I'm always hurrying to keep up. I can't relax. I have to feel like I'm "improving" my literacy or adding to my body of knowledge all the time, because my "starting point" is low. Being a second-generation Chinese immigrant, I feel that in Vancouver there are a lot of racist energies below a consciously perceptible level. I can't precisely say who or what is racist and what's not, but sometimes it's as simple as this: A young woman is showing her boyfriend pictures of a friend's boyfriend on her phone. She says, "Julie got herself an Asian boy. Yup. An Asian boy." Stress on the "Asian". Another time on the bus a woman asked a man "What do you want for dinner?" The man pondered a bit, happened to look straight at me and said to his friend "Korean!" and the two of them had an unwarrantedly big gigglefest. It's a bad feeling, on all levels, to have your race be a punchline to a non-joke. I've talked to my psychologist and some counsellors about this, but I've been assured again and again that race is not that big an issue, especially in a "diverse and multicultural" city such as Vancouver...True, there is no legislation preventing me from achieving my potential career-wise, socially or creatively, but does that mean being Asian is comfortable? Something else--just to think about--I chatted with a woman I didn't know for a little bit. She told me she was sick with iron deficiency. I sympathized and offered some thoughts. She asked me "Were you born here?" I replied, "No, I was born in China". She said, "Well it's good that you can think for yourself!" implying that other Chinese young adults can't? It's precisely this kind of double-edged compliment that irks me most. How do you ask that others be more sensitive? Or do I just tolerate?
Rating: -12
My 60 year old mom stopped eating after her mom past away a fews ago. Shes down to 95lbs. I dont know what to do.
Rating: +12