posted Wednesday, August 27, 2014 at 9:31am
On the one hand, it is not really a confession, because nobody would disagree, except, maybe vicious sociopaths or trolls. Except that is not the case---so far as I have found, most people who are involved in "contemporary" relationships/dating/even marriage think it is quite reasonable to exchange promises and then break them if "bored now."
I would be quite happy having a relationship with someone who did not want to be in a relationship with me, but if they had promised, they promised and so they should do what they say---the idea that not liking the process of fulfilling a promise negates it is nutty. "I know I promised to pick you up from the airport, but then I thought what a boring hassle it would be. Don't you want someone to pick you up from the airport who _wants_ to pick you up from the airport"?
If people kept their promises, I would have a family by now, and the only minor problem would be that my partner wasn't enjoying the process---well, so what? Now I am not enjoying the process, so it seems the math works either way. Why we privilege the enjoyment of promise-breakers over nice people is beyond me.