posted Thursday, October 23, 2014 at 7:24am
A few years ago, I met someone with whom I had intense chemistry but nothing happened due to the circumstances at the time. Recently, he's been pursuing me again. Although I'm not currently in love with him, I've had feelings in the past, and believe that under the right circumstances, we would be great together.
I'm also in a 1.5 years relationship with someone that I love very much and have no intention of leaving. I'm not somebody with particularly high moral values but I'm not a natural cheater either, and would not normally consider cheating on anyone, let alone someone that I love dearly. The problem is: 1) we are in a mostly long distance relationship (his choice, not mine), 2) he has cheated on me once.
I have not had many sexual experiences (and ridiculously less than my bf), especially with someone I have intense chemistry, so I feel like I'm missing out. The fact that I don't have my boyfriend physically present and that he's been unfaithful in the past, makes it even more tempting. If I were to take action, I wouldn't tell because I don't want to hurt him. Although, I think he owes me one, I don't want to do it to get back at him.
Right now, I'm leaning towards the "don't cheat, nothing good would come out of it." But whenever I ask myself: "if he were confronted with the same situation, would he cheat?" The likely answer to that makes me think it's not fair that I should be so exclusive.