"Friend Date"
For those who responded to my post in confessions, send me a private reply! (and you can be male or female - it would only let me select one gender that I "saw" and I...
It usually takes being dumped several dozen times before a guy like your boyfriend starts to do the hard work of unpacking and dismantling his assholery.


If you are a reasonably attractive woman with average intelligence you should be able to snag a man easily. Otherwise you are being too picky. It shouldn't matter how much money he has as long as he has a job that pays the bills. He doesn't have to look like a movie star as long as he's a good person. Listen up women of Vancouver you are single because you are too picky and not willing to give love a real chance.
Rating: 0
Once upon a lifetime ago, I found myself in an entourage en route to Burning Man. Being open-minded, I was quite excited to see all the art. Not an experience I regret. Anyway, I met a fellow there; I was single at the time. (I'm a hetero woman) We connected intellectually, but not in any other way. He seemed upbeat and fun-a real Californian dude. As the week there transpired, he explained he was one of the leaders of the 'Red Pill Men's Movement'. I had no idea what that was so I listened intently as he explained it is about men's empowerment. At first, it appeared as upbeat, fun and fair as the guy. As time went, I kept in touch with this seemingly interesting fellow. He slowly became verbally gamey, hostile and very dominating, with vestiges of what appeared to be addicted behaviours: inability to stick to plans, strange and sudden mood changes, constant obnoxious tales of women he used to date and how awful they were. As I looked into this 'movement' a little more, I discovered 'Red Pill' is a 'movement' all right: 'treating women like children'. This experience taught me that all types are out there. We need to remain discerning while being open-minded. I had to end my connection with this man as he just got stranger and stranger and then downright unfun. I let him know I was over it. Never heard from him again. Phew. I hope our Canadian men are bigger than this. While there are clearly multiple issues arising from the 'feminist' struggle, I'd like to believe our menfolk know their own worth and honour their value in more progressive ways. In any case, I am grateful for Canadian men and their sense of humour.
Rating: +9
When I need to go to my happy place, which happens more frequently now I'm a parent...I think of this combination: warm blue ocean of Hawaii, fresh sushi, Joan Armatrading, a cozy fire on the beach after a full day of playing, the best phatty egg roll I ever tasted after dancing for hours at a CalExpo Dead show, a perfect latte, dark chocolate almond bark...and you. You are part of every movement I make towards strength and joy. And you have been for years and years. Thank you for being such a dear inspiration. I often wonder if you know how important you have been. Hope so. Hope you also have a happy place you go to.
Rating: +7
My orgasims are almost always more intense when self induced without the help of my partner. Naughty Fantasy's are far more potent..touch far more sync! I will never admit this to him....
Rating: -1
Why isn't there a site that exists that's like an online dating site, but instead of setting up romantic connections, you meet up with a potential platonic friend and see if you hit it off? I'm relatively new to Vancouver (been here about 7 months) and have had trouble making friends. I know there are sites like Meetup, which I've attempted to get involved in, but I can never bring myself to actually go hang out with an entire big group of strangers I don't know. I feel much more comfortable getting to know people on a one-on-one or very small group basis, and if I could even just make one friend here who could come along with me to something like a meetup, I'd feel a lot less anxious and scared to meet people. It just feels very intimidating doing that stuff alone, at least for me. Being able to "friend date" one-on-one would be a nice option to have :)
Rating: +17
I just need to be held.
Rating: +24
Relationships are imperfect and we all mess up at some point or another. It is important to know when things can be patched up and when we should let go. Sometimes, I think it wouldn't be too hard to just forgive and go back but every time, I give up as I see no signs that things would change. Instead of showing warmth, humility or desire to amend, he appears cold, entitled and righteous in his mind. He is angry and hurt that I don't give in immediately, not thinking one second of what he could do to make me want to stay. He wants love, commitment and exclusivity, all the things he took and still takes for granted. Has it not occurred to you that you haven't done anything to deserve those things, quite the contrary? It is really too bad as this is someone that I like very much as a person but who has proved to be a bad partner with poor relationship skills. He is extremely immature, insensitive and self-absorbed. If he cares about me, he does a terrible job at showing it. Ignoring my pleading and begging, he left me alone for Christmas and Valentine's day, and I later found out he was cheating on me (and probably the reason why he was distancing himself). Despite all these things, he sometimes manages to convince me that he is not at fault. He seems to be completely unconscious of the seriousness of his actions and the damage he has done to me. He is so irresponsible that I always have to worry that he would misbehave because he is incapable of taking care of himself. He even finds a way of putting some of the blame on me. Unbelievable! I understand the "forgive yourself so you can move on with your life" part but putting blame on the other person so you don't have to take responsibility? This is one of the rare relationships in which I can positively say that I have nothing to blame myself for. All I ever did was to cater to his insatiable needs. He seems to enjoy making me jealous and wait around for him, and shows no concern for my feelings. He makes me feel cold, unattractive, and kills my desire for fun or intimacy. He clearly has led a good life with a privileged upbringing, and has had everything given to him with a silver spoon. All his life has been about having fun and not taking anything seriously. He didn't have to go through deprivation, repression or darkness of any kind. He never took the time to really get to know me, and I'm pretty sure that I have far too many issues for him to deal with. I feel like I can be a better person without him. I'm letting him go to find the pretty, fun and easy girls who are more his type anyway. It's too bad: I know we both wanted it to work, and I really thought we could be great together despite the differences. Unfortunately, you show no compassion, understanding or willingness to compromise to make me believe in it or want to put my energy into it again. If I'm wrong, it is up to you to show me otherwise. If you're ready to let go too, I wish you all the best. Perhaps, we will each find happiness with other people.
Rating: +16
I notice a groups that are for MILF's, cougars, sugar daddies, sugar babies, sugar mommies & of course young women who like & want to date older guys, but there's no groups for older guys who like & want to date younger women (as non-sugar daddies)....oh wait, I forgot, that's so creepy & we older guys are dirty perverted, sick creeps, that's why.
Rating: -8