Your Husband

I've tried to be your friend. I've tried to get past this but it doesn't go away for me. Since you got married I find it really hard to be friends with you. Some of the things you've told me are difficult for me and puts me in an uncomfortable and awkward position. I've done a lot of hard work to get to where I am today, to be the person I am now. Yes my values have changed from what they were when we first became friends. Whenever we chat I see that we've grown apart more than ever. I've tried to bridge that gap but it's not working for me. You're psyched about and have things in your life that don't fit my values, morals or beliefs any more. Things like a house, car, and having children. All these things are made possible and are supported by your husband's work, the company he works for and a way of making a living that I strongly oppose. I do not like hearing about what he does, or where he's going, or where he is, but it's a major part of your life. Now that I know what I know now, it affects me in a negative way. The bell can't be un-rung. You've told me this is one of the reasons you chose to marry him when he asked you, because of his work and that he makes insane amounts of money; mining. It upsets me because I know more about mining than you realize and I hate its gross destruction to Earth regardless of what country; it's still Earth. I don't care about what he or his company are mining for. The pictures I see and the harm it causes to the environment turns my stomach and make me want to vomit. It's a source of conflict that I can't get past. Sorry. That's the way it is for me. And you. It hurts me too much to be friends with you. That's why I'm not.

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Real friendship

Apr 29, 2013 at 7:26am

is not dependent on approval of what the other person thinks about something. Not liking what her husband is doing is fine, but to use that as a reason to not want to be friends, is not cool either. Apparently your friendship comes with conditions, and it seems you are being highly critical of her. This is more about how offended you are, then what he does. Maybe you should take a look at why you can't let her know how you feel, without threatening to dispose of the friendship if she doesn't see things your way.

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sorry but...

Apr 29, 2013 at 1:02pm

You sound like an overly dramatic and high maintenance friend. She's probably exhausted by you.

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really truly sorry but

Apr 30, 2013 at 6:25am

@Real friendship

You're being a common hypocrite preaching about you. You prefer to be a fake and pretend friend instead of real and true. The common ground for friendship or relationship has disappeared evaporated. Grow up. People grow apart all the time.

@sorry but...

You're remind me of a shallow mindless cake face with a phone attached to your head. All you know is go with the mainstream to be popular and cool. You have no mind of your own. Can you walk and chew gum at the same time? Go do something you're good at like hang at the mall.

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Huh?

Apr 30, 2013 at 8:35am

@really truly sorry but - defensive much?

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