After reading your story I am encouraged to confess. I am in a relationship with a "socialist feminist" or so she likes to label herself. It gives her a soap box to stand on and a reason and justification to be judgemental and demeaning to me not to every one but me for sure. She may never realize or admit the one person (her father) who made her so insecure as person when she was a girl is the cause of her feelings of insecurity and behind her need to empower herself with ball breaking power tripping force all the time. She has never dealt with or confronted him and so her issues remain unresolved and festering.