North Van living
We had a nice chat about how wonderful it is to live in North Vancouver. You recommended I read a book about gender equality in a corporate ladder structured society. Ive gone and...
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After reading your story I am encouraged to confess. I am in a relationship with a "socialist feminist" or so she likes to label herself. It gives her a soap box to stand on and a reason and justification to be judgemental and demeaning to me not to every one but me for sure. She may never realize or admit the one person (her father) who made her so insecure as person when she was a girl is the cause of her feelings of insecurity and behind her need to empower herself with ball breaking power tripping force all the time. She has never dealt with or confronted him and so her issues remain unresolved and festering.
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Chris
Even if your partner confronts her father or deals with it, that's not to say her issues will be resolved. Dealing with past abuse is something that routinely requires emotional maintenance. This is nothing to be ashamed about. I faced all my old crap and am much better for it. The thing is, I still have bad days. The trick is, participating in your own healing and accepting bad days still happen...and being grateful you no longer have bad months or bad years.

Don't put up with abuse just because you believe you know the root of your partner's pain. No matter what you think you know about her pain, she will not get better on your dime...sadly, it is up to her.

Good luck to you both.
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RUK
Okay, but what about her social feminism? Are her critiques stirring and on point, or do they meander into rhapsody?

While you're speculating about her reasons for hurting your feelings, apparently, I am wondering what it is that she is actually saying.

She may be a bit nuts, but frankly aren't you? Or me?

What is she doing to you anyway?
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