you didnt give anything back

Treat him as you want him to treat you.

Give him Love letters and chocolates.

Or ask him why he stopped.

there's more to this saga than whats being told????

I make my fiance cards and special little things like that on any and all occasions & I dont get anything in return either. It's the little gestures that mean the most & sometimes I think its a matter of aloofness, but other times Ibelieve it's a clear sign of lacking care.

Always sad when I read stuff like this. I used to do the little things (and big things in truth) like this all the time. One day I realized that they were never reciprocated. And that in and of itself is okay as long as reciprocation appears in some other form because not everyone expresses themselves in the same way. But there was no reciprocation of any kind. That is when you either put up with it or look for something better. I chose the latter and we shall see how it works out.

Sorry to make it about myself for a moment there but I needed some context for my advice. OP and fourth poster down, look at what else your partners may be doing to express their adoration of you. Is there something that replaced the chocolates and notes or is there another way that your guys are expressing their appreciation? Are you yourselves reciprocating, emotionally and/or physically? Best approach is to speak to your partners about it and then use this information to decide your best course of action. Good luck and I hope the notes and small kindnesses cut both ways for both of you.