Do what your heart tells you is right.
I've had sex with 13 men, only half of them cared about me or I about them. It was a waste of time and if I could go back, I'd do what youre doing.

I am 42, 20 years older than your 22. I felt the same way at 22. I tried to check out what it would be like to just have sex, like I saw my other cohorts doing in their 20-times. It made me feel awful. You are on the right path of you you. There are some of us out here that need a solid connection in order to feel safe and enjoy it. That is healthy and good for you. Big hugs for this important realization around your ethics now. It will save you long term. Lots of love, Sweetie.

The way to go. It's nice to get off, but being appreciated makes the
experience more whole, emotionally. Kudos for realizing that at an early
point in your life.

I had almost this exact same experience - and felt a very similar way. But I think sometimes it takes something like sleeping with someone who doesn't care to really recognize what you need in a relationship. I learned a lot about myself by sleeping with two men who only saw me for sex. I look back on it as a learning experience, and think I'm better for it. I think you'll be too. Find someone you care about, who cares about you too.

You want to be with a man who makes you want to do the dirty things to him that you want him to do to you. Find that, and you will never want for lust again.

there is nothing wrong with only having sex with someone that youre in a relationship with.. dont be pressured into thinking that its lame not to have casual sex. todays priorities are so screwed up. good for you for learning this sooner than later.

Such wonderful comments--thank you all. It's difficult seeing all of my friends and other young people having multiple sexual relationships because we all want pleasure. However, I think when I find the right one to have sex with, all the waiting will be worth it...like it was for the first time. :)