I'm toxic
posted April 21st, 2014 at 1:06 AM
I keep ending up in toxic relationships, and recognize I am definitely part of the problem. I think my partner sees me as the only part of the problem. I don't know how to not be in a toxic relationship, or if I/we can fix this unfolding mess. It's burning me out. I keep looking to someone else to get out of this but I just turn them toxic
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Apr 21, 2014 at 10:11am
don't be in a relationship for a while and learn more about, and learn to love, yourself first and foremost.
Therapy
Apr 21, 2014 at 10:23am
time. And stop all substances.
Yep
Apr 22, 2014 at 8:38am
You need to break the pattern.
Figure out if the problem is:
a) the partners you choose (are they all the same type? Is there a pattern to their behaviour?);
b) you - do you behave in certain ways that contribute to this toxic soup?; or
c) are you in relationships when perhaps you aren't quite ready? That in itself can create a mess. Whether we want to believe it or not, there are times when we really are not emotionally ready for all that a relationship entails.
Take time to figure it out - and break the pattern. Good luck - it is fixable!
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