Lessons learned

posted April 15th, 2014 at 3:05 PM

People make mistakes, it's in our human nature and beneficial to our growth. I made a mistake when I rejected someone I was dating. It was a whirlwind, intense love affair, but the timing was not right. I know that I should have acknowledged her value to me at the time. Half a year later, I do, everyday. When I think about how loving, caring, inspiring and selfless she is, I fall more in love. Yes, it sucks. Would she take me back? It's possible, but I'm afraid she won't and I think that confirmation might just crush me. I showed her that I didn't deserve her and that's what I gotta live with. I live each day trying not to look back, but still aware of what I've done wrong and right. Maybe, just maybe, if I meet someone as amazing as her, I won't make the same mistake again.

3 Comments

Boy do I ever...

Apr 15, 2014 at 4:12pm

...know how you feel. I went through exactly the same thing. However, in my case, it ended up fanning out over five years before she returned to me. What I did though was apologize and I pursued her. I think that's what you have to do to. Stop dwelling on rejection, roll your dice, and try to get her back if you honestly love her like no other. It might be a difficult road, she might reject you, but you have to try. Cheer up, love is a very powerful thing and if it's truely meant, nothing can stop its impact.

Fix Your Mistakes

Apr 15, 2014 at 7:01pm

It's not whether you make a mistake, it's whether or not you have the balls/ovaries to fix them. I got a posting, and an email confirming the
rejection, but still went ahead and set the record straight. It's not all you,
it is her too. Some people would rather pretend they are blameless, than
openly say, yes I messed up too.

NK

Apr 17, 2014 at 2:32pm

I have experienced the otherside of this and let me tell you that even if she rejects you, she will have a lot more respect for you. And then you won't have to feel so much of a tug o' war in your heart, just deal with the remaining discomfort of trying and not getting your way. Tell her how special she is to you because everyone deserves to be told how special they are. Maybe there is a really important friendship that is actually at stake. Take the plunge now so that if you get an emotional kick in the pants, you have some time to process it and then get on with enjoying the summer. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for.