So Easy

posted April 15th, 2014 at 10:44 PM

Hey Y'all! The reason I want to share this with you is because I want to give you some hope! You CAN find a Love that is beautiful and easy, and be passionately and madly in love at the same time! I think we struggle unfortunately because it's part of the human condition to seek love. Because of this intense need we often agonize over relationships that do not serve us. We try to make things fit that just don't. We experience pain, drama, ugliness and often time and time and time again. I can say for the first time in 41 years I have found something with someone that fits so perfectly! There is absolutely no need to change her. She doesn't want to change me. We embrace each other and enhance each other's lives. There hasn't been one single episode of any drama. It has felt so right from the start. Its been several months!!! Not even one grain going against the rest! Hey it took me a 12 year marriage, and multiple relationships that lasted anywhere from three months to three years and dating men, women, and trans folks (I am pretty open minded) to find her (this). AND not gonna lie, lots of work on myself. Anyway please keep your heart open despite your wounds. AND if you are finding that you just keep coming up a brick wall with your current love... do them a favour and yourself. Let them go, put your energy into your own life and see what happens! Peace :)

6 Comments

thanks

Apr 15, 2014 at 11:41pm

for the inspirational post. Very happy for you!
Not sure about the "so easy" part, tho, as it seems it was awhile coming. And lots of folks still not having much luck finding any type of relationship at all, even when they have their own act together.

"Its been several months"

Apr 15, 2014 at 11:47pm

What, are you twelve?? Sounds like it. You sound hopelessly in love. Give it a bit, and not sound so naive.

Yep

Apr 16, 2014 at 6:44am

Yeah I'm damn happy about it :) Even in the easier relationships there were little issues from the start. Several months with none is something to celebrate!

Well

Apr 16, 2014 at 6:48am

Thanks for this post - because it's so true. The reason we have angst in relationships (that agony, self-sacrifice and all that) is because we're in the wrong place. We keep fumbling along, hoping that if we do this, do that, we can make everything better - when the truth is that this is just not the right place to be.

And being in that wrong place, the one that is full of drama, suppressing our needs, jumping through hoops - is absolutely soul-destroying. Anyone who's been through it knows.

I, too, have been fortunate to find something lovely, gentle and easy with someone I've known for a long time (neither of us was available before). He was happily married before, so knows what that looks like. I was not happily married, so truly appreciate how lovely he is, and how sweet things are.

With maturity and life experience behind me, I sense - very strongly - that we could be happy together for the rest of our lives. Does this make me sound like a twelve year old? Nah, I don't think so - just somebody who, like the OP, has been through a few knocks in life and has the maturity to recognize something that is lovely and life-affirming.

People who haven't been through those tough relationships have no idea how lucky they are to be in a good one, and I suspect they sometimes take it for granted.

A loving, positive relationship is an absolute gift in life. Something to be truly appreciated. All the best to you, OP, and thanks for sharing your life lessons with the rest of us!

That

Apr 16, 2014 at 9:19am

is a truly splendid post and I love your love. Bless you both!!! The above poster is jaded and could well be a troll. You go enjoy!

Lust or Infatuation?

Apr 16, 2014 at 12:56pm

Sounds like your still glowing from either the lust or infatuation with this perfect specimen. With time this will change and the real colours will shine through. I expected more but a bit dismayed that you can't see through this fog for your age, guess you must be still a young, inexperienced fool