None of your business.

Ever since I chose to drop my mother out of my life I feel like everyone is judging me for the choice I made. Honestly if you knew her as the person I know her as you would see why I did so. She was an abusive, ill tempered alcoholic who did nothing but beat me and tell me to kill myself. I have finally come to a good place in my life(after multiple suicide attempts) that enough was enough and I blocked her from everything humanly possible. It has made me more humble and so much more at peace now. Honestly it's none of your business and I feel no need to drudge up the past. SO LET IT GO; I sure have.

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sparky

May 12, 2014 at 8:04pm

I absolutely agree with you. Not everybody had the Cleaver family when they grew up. Some of us had the family from he!!. The best day I had in years was the day my mother died. Only then was I sure that she wasn't going to screw with anybody else's mind.

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You have done the right thing

May 12, 2014 at 8:08pm

I congratulate you for getting your life on track. We need to come up with some snappy one-liners for people who want to involve themselves in other people's business but don't have a clue what it is. All the best to you.

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Been there

May 12, 2014 at 8:44pm

Anyone who would judge you is a fool. They are probably in the same family trance you were in, just a different family. Or maybe the same family? Tell them clearly how much better you feel now, using as much compassion for their ignorance as you can muster. Tell them as gently as you can, "Don't be a fool. Don't be a fool like I was. I like you to much for that." And it they don't get it, then at a time convenient and safe for you, you should probably just ask them to just fuck off out of your life, because they'll just be a drag.

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you made the right decision

May 12, 2014 at 10:20pm

I had opportunities to do this at various points...all my mother has ever done is try to convince me, in spite of above average functioning in everything unrelated to her and her mentally ill expectations, that _I_ am the headcase. In addition to that, she has what would today be diagnosed during K-4 as learning disabilities, which are papered over by her being in a Union, which she got into back when it was affirmative action for whites here.

now I'm approaching middle age, no job, no girlfriend, no nothing because I started believing her and finally, to appease her, went on disability. Since then my health has deteriorated to the point that I am actually am physically disabled, so now I am dependent on her. death would be a blessing. About my only happiness comes from watching all of the nice middle class people I see in vancouver, especially the asians---i wouldn't wish my low-functioning white trash mom on anyone.

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Support for you

May 13, 2014 at 8:06am

No one needs that in their life. Be sure to get some support for this big change you're making. I have a nutzo, evil bitch of a mama. Now I am a mama myself it comes back sharp and clear all the time. Focus on release. Treasure yourself. Eat well. Know you can be loved. I am so glad mother is just barely in our lives and I will dance the day she passes.

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