Ghat-ly Babe
You, handsome drummer fella. I see you around at a lot of shows. Happened to end up at yours. I tend to blend into the crowd a bit. I see your eyes wander over to me every now and...
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I have to admit- I saw a woman in Lighthouse PArk this past week - she was keeping fit- I thought hmmm .... interesting. I saw her again in Starbucks in West Van later in the week- she was beautiful. Albeit I am a professional man who works in the health profession I could imagine my colleagues shaming her very large figure in private. I admired the way she carried herself nad the way she dressed. It was most impressive to hear her speak to the person she was with- she sounded educated and articulate. I feel ashamed that I have judged overweight women - she highlighted my own insecurities without saying a word. Well done.
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OP...
You sound so ignorant. Who are you to make any comments like this regarding anyone. You make it sound like she belongs behind glass, like she rolled over and fetched a stick for your ignorant ass. Well done you big moron.
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well
not ashamed to admire and then post here, but too ashamed to possibly date her and have your colleagues know..
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Snell
we often see such confessions and its great to be open minded like this. Wonder if the same would hold true for short guys. Will women overcome their insecurity and date short men ? didnt think so.
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I don't get it...
It blows my mind that intelligence is tied into body size. How? Seriously? How can a person's intelligence/wit/anything mind related be associated with how much they weigh?
I, unfortunately, am very well endowed and I know that I am seen as less intelligent, a bimbo because of my naturally large chest. I know there's little I can do to change that perception, still doesn't help me make sense of it.
Please, an honest inquiry. Why does body size = intelligence?
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She was...
...probably 150 lbs. You know, heavy-set and very large. People in this city need to be slapped.
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re-read
I was initially confused by the interpretation of your post by others... "You sound so ignorant... fetched a stick for your ignorant ass..." etc. So I went and re-read what you said.

And actually, you do come off as sounding more than a little 'between the lines' condescending. I didn't recognize it the first read through - but yeah, it's there.

I get the feeling it's not at all how you meant to come across.
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radiologist
If I came across as a wanker then my message my not have been clear- no she was not 150 lbs - In fact - i'd think she was well over 250 lbs- would I ask her out? Hell yes- I've been looking for her ever since.
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J
It's called a very judgemental society we live in. North American society depicts that we should all a certain way: tall, think, muscular, attractive. Well, that is just how skin deep beauty is really. In all actuality, if we picked up North American ideals and ourselves and plunked them down in some states in Africa, it would be quite the contrary. Zimbabwe for example, loves big women. They are a sign of health and fertility. Unfortunately, North American cultures are opposite thanks to magazines and Hollywood.
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sky
It blows my mind that people are never satisfied with anything. This confession from my perspective was quite positive with a happy ending. He realized his mistake and learned a lesson..and the comments? Ignorant this, ignorant that...Come on! You guys all speak so highly like you never make mistakes or make judgements that prove to be false later...nothing ever satisfies people. You all have issues you need to work out before making any comments about other people.
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Vancouverites
Shame on those for talking down to this guy. He obviously woke up and had a REALIZATION. First line ...,I have to Admit....

Typical Vancouver socially inept dimwitted phobic attitudes from hillbillies in suv's and yoga pants.

No sweat op do your thing.

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@ I don't get it
It is SO SO weird that you ask!!

I received a fascinating article just this morning from a friend regarding - of all things, why men are attracted to certain female body types more than others - specifically hip to waist ratio etc. (my friend knows I love a woman with curvy hips and thought i'd be interested in reading... she was right).

It's a good 15 minute read and explains why men are UNIVERSALLY attracted to the shape and size of a woman's hips - and believe me we are!!!

Apparently studies show women with more fat storage in her hips and legs rate higher in intelligence as do her off-spring.

Read the article and find out why...

m.psychologytoday.com/articles/201206/eternal-curves
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@i don;t get it
you sound very smartit to me!
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@sky from J
I totally agree with you. He was very postive and I totally commend him. I deviated from his post in response to everyone's negativity toward him by saying that our society says women/men should be thin/skinny, tall/muscular. I love this guy who posted for his realization. So brutally honest really.
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@Snell
I'm 5'6" and I have a thing for short men because when a guy is about my height, I feel like we're on the same team. Finding one who will like me back, however...but hey, that's life. We're way pickier than we say we are. For example, I was chatting with this guy, but the minute he found out I was Canadian-born (my parents immigrated), he walked away. Just like that. It was hilariously efficient.
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radiologist
I was rather appauled by the negative feedback my post rec. I nail it down to two things: A) I am admitting my own insecurities- and feel guilt because I would normally have passed judgement. Morover, when I saw this lovely lady was out there in a park with steep hills - she was doing something about her life. SHE WAS WORKING ON BETTERING HERSELF. Something most judgemental people FAIL to see.

B) People who reacted negatively are people who usually cannot admit their own insecurities, thus you are coming off as insecure individuals.

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RUK
@Radiologist

Well I've been down this road too. As soon as you start admitting that you were biased, you get bashed, as though this encourages people to admit or change their biases.

I don't know why that happens, I ain't a mindreader. But I am a Georgia Straight reader and I thought your posts are good reading - quite touching in a way - please have a nice day and good luck finding that beautiful person.

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radiologist
Well Readers!!!!!!!

I SAW HER! I nearly got into an accident - she was walking on Marine in West Van- I couldn't park anywhere - I nearly hit the bus !!!!

IF she happens to read these posts - You were wearing a chevron print dress and your hair was up. You have a very dark tan. I parked 2 blocks away frmo marine and 15th-then she was gone :(

Thank you @RUK for your kind words. Vancouver has changed in the last several years - it's become a very image conscious city - I recall the good old days - where people enjoyed communicating and judgement was reserved - I shamingly enough got wrapped up in the former culture.

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J
Can't judge people for being overweight or skinny. I used to do this and now I realize that being overweight is obviously a blanket for deep internal issues that person may not even realize. Perhaps they are filling a void with food that nothing else fills. Like a drug or alchohol addiction.
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@J
OR they are just built that way?

I know people who eat crap and stay incredibly skinny & people who eat everything they're supposed to, exercise daily and are still considered "big".

You're either trolling or quite ignorant.
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J
My point was not to judge people so thanks for giving me negative votes
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