Huh?
posted July 22nd, 2014 at 12:14 AM
After five years of being together my girl just told me I basically suck as a partner. Im crushed and am seriously not that bad. She's still around but it's weird and awkward right now. I feel pretty worthless and although she says she loves me, I don't get it. I don't feel loved. I just want someone to think I'm amazing with out expecting me to be perfect. She's been a good girlfriend. I really am lost and frozen
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Jul 22, 2014 at 4:25am
If you want to save your relationship (if that is still possible) I think you would be wise to ask her if she is willing to tell you why she is so unhappy.
If she is willing to talk- good- there is a chance. If not- watch out- she is going to be nasty. Prepare for war- watch out for financial cleanout. Don't hesitate to talk to the police-before hand; some bitches will lie and say you assaulted them when you did not.
You've been warned.
northislandgal
Jul 22, 2014 at 6:50am
it may be that it is easier to tell you 'you suck as a partner" than tell you she wants to see someone else.
Good luck.
From a Girl
Jul 22, 2014 at 7:35am
I'm in the exact same position instead it was my BF of 5 years that dumped me and I'm a girl.
Bruce
Jul 22, 2014 at 7:41am
Try to imagine a guy doing that, and not coming off as a sexist a-hole.
Natty
Jul 22, 2014 at 7:48am
If she's been with you 5 years and said nothing to this point, she's not expecting you to be perfect. You say she's a good girlfriend, so it's more likely she feels as though you take her for granted. Do you take her on dates anymore...ones with a little more depth than a movie night? Are you physically affectionate? Do you ever go out and see something she likes (maybe whilst grocery shopping) and pick up her favourite chocolate bar or something? Do little things to show you care? Cook her dinner? The fact she's still around means you have a chance. You don't need to spend a lot of money, but you do have to make an effort if you want to keep her.
Thaw
Jul 22, 2014 at 8:04am
Shit happens ... move along and stop being such a pussy
Ed
Jul 22, 2014 at 8:41am
dont worry about it, thats how the girls are (especially the ones from around here). Just find yourself a good import from far east and your life will be so much better. Sometimes we just arent meant to be with certain people.
Just be thankful it's now...
Jul 22, 2014 at 8:52am
Mine did it after 10 years, but i was kind've feeling the same way also and didn't know how to get out of it since we were living in a different province.
We just drifted apart and had a blast for years while in Vancouver, but not in Regina. It was so boring there and we just didn't do anything.
Thankfully i moved back to Vancouver in 2012 and have met an amazing girl and have started a great relationship with her and we do so many things here and life is great!! So no matter what happens, just make it a learning experience and live and learn bro. I've been there and so have a lot of my friends, but just make your next relatioship even more awesome!! Good luck :)
J
Jul 22, 2014 at 9:14am
Well the fact that you are crushed means you care alot and if you care a lot, then you can work it out. Just talk to her about why she thinks that and see if you can change and work on things or at least see her perspective.
You are
Jul 22, 2014 at 9:24am
amazing -- it's hard now but in time you'll realise she did you a favour by ending it. You wouldn't want someone to think of you less than otherwise.
P.S. She still loves you but not IN love w/ you. Difference. She's trying to gently let you down -- as fucked up as that sounds.
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