Dating a single mom with two kids would be difficult for most men. What you need to do is find a man who has some kids of his own who understands your daily frustrations and struggles. Have you tried putting a personal advertisement up on the internet? Or have you tried speed dating?

Soooo many men do not want to date women with kids. How hard is that to understand? And why don't you women get this...

Just like Roger said, find a guy who already has kids so he understands your situation. There's also a lot of ladies who don't want to date men with kids, so it goes both ways lady.

I find it hilarious that women think that men without kids wants to date them that do have kids. I also never dated divorced women because I myself have never been married and wanted to experience that also with someone who hasn't either. But this one lady was so awesome that she changed my mind about dating divorced women that i just had to see her and she also has a son. I have a boy also and so it's definitely a lot easier.

But she never got married here, so to me it doesn't count, i hope you meet a good guy and you'll have to expect less now that you carry 2 little ones around. Just be thankful you are a mommy and have 2 amazing kids around :)

I dated a women in the past who had a child and I never felt the need to get involved. It was a simple relationship. I would ride out to her place at night on my motorbike. We would have a few hours of sex, followed by a little bit of sleep, then I would ride home early the next morning. It was a great summer that year.

"My tarot card reading said that *something* would happen in the next two years"

oooooooh, how exciting ... something !!

wow

Please don't think that you need to be accepted by someone, just because some guys you dated weren't enthusiastic. yes, there are many men out there who wouldn't date someone with kids, or divorced, but with the majority of men there are prerequisites (age, weight, height, hair colour, and believe it or not i once knew someone who only dated women with fake boobs). there are also a lot of men who consider having children a bonus. if you want to have a relationship, you will.

I have 2 boys and have never had trouble finding men willing to date me with kids. It's not been an issue, the kids have a dad. Maybe it's where u meet these guys, try getting involved in a community group. Bars and the sea wall are not great places to meet men.

A year is not all that long to have been divorced. Sure having kids may present a barrier to dating, but I've known many men who were not put off by dating single women with children before, if the match was a good one. I think rather than rushing to "fall in love lots" (in the course of a year?), take your time. Don't settle for anything less than what you want in a partner. Be patient. Put yourself out there sure, but rushing into a relationship out of fear of being alone, whether or not a person has children, is a recipe for disaster. I don't know the specifics of your divorce, but I know when I went through mine, even though the relationship should have been over years sooner, it took me a good solid year of healing and getting to know "single me" again before I knew I was ready to jump back into the relationship and dating game. Best of luck.

I am 50 and single. I am an underemployed but passionate artist and make only $20,000 a year. I want to get married and have a family. I keep dating women and hoping one will stick around, but I find they all insist on my having a full-time job and make more money. When they find out my financial situation they suddenly run away.

Why can't I find a woman of reproductive age who will love me for who I am and have a brood of kids with me?

There are men who would date and want to be in a serious relationship with a single mom but you have to first be the type of woman - mom or not - who any many would want to date. If you're putting stock in tarot card readings and "guessing" you're ready, you're not likely the type of woman a good man would want to marry. What do you bring to the table, other than you are a woman who gives tarot cards weight in major life decisions, has two kids, and "falls in love lots"?

Maybe the thing to do is not to be afraid of being single with kids, but to embrace it.

Because, right now, you are single with kids.

And because there are reasons to suspect that this condition might be permanent or at least indefinite.

Men might be wary of joining an existing family; men might want to start families without pre-existing kids; your having kids might mean fewer romps in the living room with whips and ice cubes.

So, what to do? Should you be anxious about this, and tell yourself that you will not be happy unless you get a replacement full time man?

Or should you live with as much awareness, intention, focus and joy as you can muster today, and not wait to be happy tomorrow?

IMO a happy person who loves herself, loves her kids, and loves her life is complete and needs nothing. And a person who is complete and needs nothing, IMO, makes a wonderful life partner....