Women will shun you if you do not have a good job, big bank account and expensive shiny car. Remember this all you guys, it is simple reality.

Women aren't shunning you because you don't have a shiny expensive car, they are shunning you because you appear to be bitter, narrow minded and sexist.

i don't know if it's legit,but...there is dating site if your looking for a sugar mama!
so many options...there are a lot of heavy chicks that needlove...escortservices...incest,bestiality(yuk)...impoverished...etc...

*of course i'm not serious, don't let it get you down, have a good laugh, help your mom out, maybe volunteer or take up a socially inclined hobby...it's all good my friend.

(my brother has been in your situation for too long, and still lives with my parents ; but he has recently found a good woman!)

at her place, or at your place when your mom is out.

The last guy I really liked was unemployed and couldn't afford rent. I didn't care. Maybe you are going for materialistic girls.

Thanks for the comments (except the first guy - dude, get a clue and learn to love yourself first!)

@lowest, thanks for the laugh! i try to stay positive, and i do help out my mom. that's part of it though - she's getting older and needing more help, so it's mutually beneficial, but at the same time this could become more long-term than i planned, regardless of my income.

@you could, this is true, assuming she has a place. i think i just can't get past the point in my head when i have to tell someone i live with my mom at my age. also, our schedules overlap so there's rarely a time i have the house to myself for more than an hour or two. and i hate being on the clock when i'm having sex - it's too distracting. (i mean, its fun once in awhile to rush, but not every time!)

@anon, thanks, that's very kind! i'm actually not really going for any girls right now (see above), but the materialistic ones i've always avoided.

i feel a bit better about all this, so thanks for your feedback! peace

You seem like a pretty good guy (which is different than a nice guy). We all have our perceived fatal flaws when it comes to relationships, don't we? Be it place of residence, education level, health status, physical standards, blah, blah, blah. But these are all social constructs and precarious at the very least. I reckon you understand this and therefore measure a person's worth by their actions and character? If so, then you will no doubt find a kindred spirit -- we're all around, busy hiding our soft spots.

I feel for you OP and you know what? It's ALL Good. Real life situations and circumstances tend to cut through all the crap. This will weed out the wrong people. Right away. What I'm trying to say is that the female who's right for you won't bat an eye. She'll take your situation and circumstances all in stride. She won't have any issue. She won't judge you. In fact, she will be able to see all the good things about you. It's all good.

I'm assuming you're over 40 if you owned your own home 15 years ago. You're lucky on the one hand, if you're living in Vancouver--most people understand how unaffordable rent is. I feel differently about this subject now, at 40, than I did when I was 25. I'm currently unable to move from my longterm rental because of how cheap it is, given how much rents have risen in recent years. Have you considered giving yourself a time deadline? A plan of action might help--even if you have to rework it week by week.

I think some women might find it sweet that you're caring for your mother, and be willing to look past your less than ideal living circumstances if they feel a connection. Plus, you sound like a really good, intelligent, and well-rounded person, so I'm betting it will eventually work out for you. Wishing you all the best!