God, I hope I'm not alone in this...

Is it me, or is there a very huge sense of malaise and despair happening nowadays? It's not the change of season; it's something bigger, something worse. I don't want to be a doom-and-gloom merchant, but lately I feel that the only reason I want to stick around is for my cat. Yes, being recently-unemployed and unable to find proper work and rather friendless doesn't help, but my overall motivation is gone. Just gone. I'm sure I can change this situation with a lot of tenacity and hard work, but I'm just so tired and uninspired I can hardly be bothered. I honestly feel as though there is very little to work towards, very little to care about. I can't see a solid future, I really can't. And I'm lucid and rational about these feelings, rather than miserable and hibernating in bed--that is the worst part of it all.

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I'm just picking up the pieces myself.......

Oct 24, 2014 at 3:15pm

This will sound corny....but would you consider taking a look at the Scene in Star Trek: "Generations" where Captain Picard is talking to Cmdr. Data in The Stellar Cartography scene about courage to carry on.

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magical thinking

Oct 24, 2014 at 4:22pm

I read this somewhere, but it's been said that losing a loved one, and and/or being unemployed are two of the most stressful experiences to go though. Don't lie in self-pity. Read the paper. Observe the lives of others. Relate to everything, because your fears are shared. If you're going to sulk, sulk at a bar -- you'd be surprised how long you can keep it together, just make sure not to get drunk.

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It's not just you.

Oct 24, 2014 at 4:49pm

I agree that something is completely and utterly wrong. I feel the same way, motivationally, and have a stronger fear of the future than I've ever had. For me, the shift started in the summer - prior to that, I felt a practical sense of optimism.

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Not generalized

Oct 24, 2014 at 5:14pm

While it's true that certain events happening in the world (terrorism, Ebola. Etc.) could cause a general feeling of gloom, each person also Dave individual circumstances in their lives that influence their prospects. In my case, I'm more optimist than the previous 5 years because I faced many challenges in my life and everything seems to have finally come together. I'm closer to the people in my life and have more control over my career. I have lots of plans for the future. There are many reasons to be happy and enjoying your life. The reasons haven't changed, just how you look at them. Perhaps, you are feeling depressed, please seek help.

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Positive Vibrations

Oct 24, 2014 at 5:25pm

I think what you are projecting is more of a reflection of how you are feeling about yourself. It may be a bit of a generalization to say that there is a sense of despair out there. Surely life is good for some, not so good for others. You could focus on yourself. Whenever I am troubled I strip things down. Try to focus on one day at a time and don't look too far into the future. After all, a simple change of fate could be right around the corner. You will need to be in the right frame of mind to take advantage of it. I try to create a small goal for myself. Something I can achieve that will bring me atleast some temporary happiness and a sense of accomplishment. ie: Set a fitness goal. Or decide you will make the most of your appearance for a week with the best grooming and dress you can manage. Set yourself a budget and see if you can live for a week on a certain amount of money. Get outside no matter what the weather. A vigorous bike ride or a walk or a run in some stormy weather can really bring out the survival instinct in a person. You can change into dry clothing when you get home and have a hot bath and a glass of wine. Make a point of saying hello and starting a conversation with people of the opposite sex, even if it is just small talk, without the expectation of it going any further. Hope this helps. Hang in there.

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pfffffff....me too

Oct 24, 2014 at 6:08pm

@its not just you......you took the words from my typing finger. My insomnia, then anxiety/depression started last year and i'm still dealing with problems (4-5 hours of sleep, poor appetite/no hunger,unmotivated , unfocused, worried about future..missed the boat on good job/money for house, single alone and not much of a social life at all). vancouver is now adays a very difficult place to get a job that pays the rent /bills/food/etc and it feels like a meaner place in general.

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OP

Oct 24, 2014 at 7:11pm

@positive vibrations...

Thank you, and endlessly. I am taking your words and advice to heart and I really appreciate what you have to say. Bless you. Really.

@pfffffff...me too

We will, somehow, get through this. We have to. The other option is so bleak, and is worth thinking about, but we gotta rise above it. I want you to know...and forgive me if this rubs you the wrong way...that I love you. I love you for being honest and I will have you, anonymous writer, in my thoughts when I feel alone in this struggle. And I want you to know that you are not alone, either.

God, I hope we live. "We" being the ones so scrambling for money and jobs in a city that is a resort town, so unwilling to dispense liveable wages. Yes, yes, I am blaming the city for some of our economic tragedies. Yuppies, fire away.

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Now I am sure!

Oct 24, 2014 at 8:03pm

most comments on this web site are made by Vancouver women without better things to do except whine, offer feel good nothingness and just talk BS.

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Me Too Please

Oct 24, 2014 at 8:05pm

There are days where leaving the home just feels like a big pressure cooker. I feel bad for all of us that are feeling the stresses in trying to make ends meet and finding happiness at the same time. Sometimes it just feels like there is an unbalance in the air. Other times life just glides along smoothly. This will sound wacky but on the really bad days, I focus on the awesome greeting I know I'm going to get when I get home to my furry friends. It's something to look forward to-that one consistent.

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pfffffff....me too-part2

Oct 24, 2014 at 10:14pm

i should mention i am trying a variety of things to lift my mood: i take a boatload of vitamins every morning and at lunchtime, 8 vitamin D pills alone. I'm back to using a therapy light (google SAD THerapy lights), i eat fruits and vegetables, trying to limit my intake of the news or sad shitty violent tv shows, trying to think of something/somewhere/someone to look forward to being ...but it's not easy with feeling fatigued with the poor sleep or as days get darker and rainier. I tell you all..there have been many days where i am just so Lost that i feel like running away but then i think where the fuck will i go, cant run away from away from myself. Anyway...lastly....i will say thank you to OP for your kind words and thoughts of love...i send the same to you(and others who are suffering)...wish we all find our purpose and find peace, happiness..love.

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