This guy

My friend was clean for years and a month ago tested positive for an STI. I have a feeling it was from this one guy who I see on OKC all the time looking for girls because his wife has the same STI. I didn't know the connection until later. I want to do more about this issue but I can't because I promised her I would stay out of it. I really wish I could contact the admin that he's not informing women of his status before sexual contact. I wish I could post his name and warn other women. I don't want them to go through what my friend went through.

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Promises End

Oct 22, 2014 at 5:27pm

Take it from Clapton. Some promises are stupid and hurt people. Bring it out in the open. Bad things happen when people keep secrets.

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bit of a stretch

Oct 22, 2014 at 5:40pm

Sounds like you're reaching a bit far for a connection. Maybe you're right, but maybe isn't good enough to 'out' someone who's done nothing wrong.

Take a deep breath and devise another way forward. Alternatively, respect your friends wishes and stay out of it.

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OK

Oct 22, 2014 at 5:54pm

Nosy altruism can get a bored person into hot water. Let people learn their own lessons...or join the Police force and do something pro-active for this messy town.

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my 2 cents

Oct 22, 2014 at 6:41pm

People need to take responsibility for their own health and well-being. Whenever I engage in sex with someone whom I don't yet fully know/trust it is my responsibility to protect myself.

It would be FANTASTIC if people disclosed any STBBI's they have, however some don't and some don't know they're infected. Therefore I ere on the side of caution and take care of myself.

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Dirk

Oct 22, 2014 at 7:29pm

What's an STI? Is it the same as an STD?

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Re Dirk

Oct 22, 2014 at 8:35pm

Yes

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uh huh

Oct 23, 2014 at 1:33am

everything here is completely believable..

how did you find out 'your friend' got the same infection as (the wife) of an online dating user?

are you sure you just didn't just sleep with a guy and he's not returning your texts and now you bitterly want people to know he (supposedly has) a sti?

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STI STD...

Oct 23, 2014 at 1:47am

Sexually transmitted INFECTION,
versus
Sexually transmitted DISEASE...
at any rate, yiiiikes.

So this post is a bit confusing... your "friend" got an STI from a guy she was having sex with from a dating site, (not exclusively dating I guess) and he is looking for women who have the same STI as his wife? Would he not disclose this to your "friend"?

I had a friend who's girlfriend told him that her herpes was not a big deal, that in fact she only ever had one outbreak. Well, when he got her herpes he told me that once a month he was left with scabbing oozing sores all around his genitalia and was concerned he could never date anyone else but her because he felt too horrible that he would give someone else this painful and embarrassing gift.

Warts and crabs can be spread even with a condom, but I am assuming that your "friend" didn't use these. You can also develop warts in your throat from oral sex and everyone forgets about HPV. Which can cause cancer and the vaccine is not effective against all cancers of the throat, anus or cervix, nor against all forms of HPV to spite all the promotion.

Sheesh, almost enough to make you use condoms when you are engaging in non-monagamous casual multiple dating... almost.

Get tested and stick to maybe one bareback partner at a time. Use protection with other. Or go bug chasing?

I believe you can report this person to the local health authorities.
No one would be telling you to mind your own business if it were HIV. Sexual contact with out disclosure of that STI/STD is legally a criminal act.

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Post him on

Oct 23, 2014 at 6:42am

The Dirty.

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kate

Oct 23, 2014 at 9:02am

come on girls...inforce that condom..its your vagina...don't end up a vaginasaur...

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