I don't know what your gender is, but I agree. I think women (and some men) look better with long hair (I'm a woman btw) and if the guy I'm involoved with gained a ton of weight, I'd run for the hills.

One of my friends gave herself a bowl cut and that was it.

That means you put emphasis on appearance. Get over yourself.

You put too much emphasis on yourself and your idiotic opinions. People are all into appearances. If you say you aren't, you're a liar. Unless you're blind, attractiveness is important in a sexual relationship. People can't force something that's not there or ever will be there.