Passive-aggression sucks!
posted October 19th, 2014 at 9:31 PM
I'm sorry, but to all you folks out there who let your minds stew in over-thinking but never say a damn thing to those who care enough to worry about you or genuinely want to help you, PLEASE STOP it. Passive-aggression sucks for those of us on the receiving end and the mixed signals that often go along with it hurt. Furthermore, learn how to talk to people in person. I'm sorry but text messages, e-mail messages, and Social Media just don't cut it when it comes to effective, emotional communication. I'd rather be told 'I hate you' or 'this ain't working', etc. to my face than be shrugged off over a cellular device/iWhatever. Forgive me to those reading this, I guess just feel uber let down by someone who I never would have thought would do what she did to me, and the aftermath of it rather painful. For all it's worth, it's far more cutting to be cut over an SMS or Facebook than it is to just talk things out/be let go face-to-face. Very agonizing; leaves me feeling more regret than I should.
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Post a CommentI agree
Oct 19, 2014 at 10:26pm
whether you are male or female, If you want to end a relationship , be a grown up!
Say it face to face. Give the other person the respect you would want to receive. Its NOT always easy, you don't have to be mean about it, But it is so uch better to say "this isn't working, or I'm not interesting in taking this any further and I wanted to tell you face to face and show you respect, instead of being a coward and either disappearing or sending a text. My intension is not to be cruel but to respect what we had and to say good bye so we both have closure.
That's what real men and women do.
Saying good bye is not easy, but anything after 5 dates, should be handled this way. How you end a relationship is just as important to your character as how you start one.
I wish you well :)
The funny part?
Oct 19, 2014 at 10:55pm
If you had done the same thing to her and let her go via email/text message/Facebook post/tweet you would be the world's biggest asshole to her and her friends. Don'tcha just love double standards?
hippo
Oct 20, 2014 at 3:18am
you are posting a rant about someone semi-anonymously publicly. how is that not passive-aggressive?
Natty
Oct 20, 2014 at 9:46am
For the most part I agree, but there are certain cases when it's appropriate:
you've dated less than a month and seen each other a handful of times
you've tried to get the other person to meet you but they've given you weeks of excuses and you can't put up with his/her BS anymore
Welcome to Vancouver.
Oct 20, 2014 at 10:08am
You're home. NEVER LEAVE HERE and spare the world your ignorance.
I would break up on person
Oct 20, 2014 at 1:18pm
But if I know I'm going to sleep with them if I see them again?
Punny!
Oct 21, 2014 at 9:52pm
Uber is an app, lol
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