This is why I never speak my true feelings

posted October 31st, 2014 at 9:39 AM

I tend to not speak up when something bothers me or makes me unhappy. I bottle it up until it becomes unbearable and I explode. I'm trying to turn over a new leaf and be open and honest about my feelings but when ever I do the response always is "it's in your head." Of course it's in my head where else would it be? In my butt? Instead of figuring out why I feel this way people tell me that my feelings are unfounded. I don't think that is entirely true. Perhaps I over exaggerate things but the feelings still come from somewhere. How about instead of putting all the blame on me you accept some responsibility for your own actions. How about instead of always asking me to see things through your eyes you try to see them through mine?

7 Comments

Maybe you extremely sensitive

Oct 31, 2014 at 10:40am

because your parent(s) fucked you up. That tends to make adults of these kinds of parents think exactly that way. Many times, it's not about you at all. I'm not saying it's all in your head, I'm sure some people are mean when they are stabbing you in the back, but think about it. There are ways of dealing with people like this... (I mean legal means...come straight out and ask them for one, then you'll really know if they've been talking about you by their reactions.)

you know why.

Oct 31, 2014 at 1:20pm

Because you're extremely insecure. You take a lot of things very personally.

Turtle

Oct 31, 2014 at 1:27pm

Some people are just extra sensitive, about 30% of adults. look up Highly Sensitive Person, if you identify as one, there is a lot of info online on how to get the most of being awesome hsp. upside (one of) - we receive tremendous amount of pleasure from arts and literature, downside - we have a hard time connecting to those without empathy, and certain personality traits really really irritate us. you are awesome :)

A little secret...

Oct 31, 2014 at 2:50pm

Most people never reciprocate when you call them on their bull. In fact, it is much easier for them to destabilize people around them then have to deal with the fact that they are, in fact, a-holes. Keep that in mind. A second hint... instead of self-reflection, concentrate on what other people are doing. You'll begin to understand their motives and it will all become clear!

Camel

Oct 31, 2014 at 4:17pm

You're on the right path! Turn over a new leaf, have a one night stand, and keep moving forward!

Its you

Oct 31, 2014 at 5:33pm

its science. I prove it.

Damien Otis

Nov 2, 2014 at 6:01pm

You've done the first step in setting boundaries. The next step is to set boundaries with these folks. If they don't respect your feelings, they aren't worth your time. Don't put up with people who don't respect you. There are better things out there for you :)