Hopeless
posted November 28th, 2014 at 7:04 PM
I am a 30-year-old female virgin who's never had a boyfriend. I feel like an alien. I have lost hope that I will ever know what love is.
posted November 28th, 2014 at 7:04 PM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
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Nov 28, 2014 at 8:52pm
I know how you feel. Me too.
Easy
Nov 28, 2014 at 9:02pm
Who needs love when you can just get a vibrator? In need of companionship? Then get a cat. Problem solved.
love is an illusion
Nov 29, 2014 at 12:09am
don't sweat it
Not The Only One
Nov 29, 2014 at 1:09am
I, too, am a virgin and almost 30. You're definitely not alone.
NK
Nov 29, 2014 at 7:49am
Sex is about connection. Connection is hard to find. Don't rush for the sake of rushing. A lot of people are having sex that isn't satisfying but everyone likes to pretend their lives are perfect so we all think they are having great sex. Casual sex is often overrated. Just go with the flow and don't get hung up on it. Get to know yourself sexual while you have the chance. I am not a virgin but I certainly am not sexually active with partners all the time (even though I am a very sexual person) . I promise you that there is so much more to life than sex.
Hardcore
Nov 29, 2014 at 8:05am
Love and sex do not always equate with one another. If one wants sex without love, then it is easy for a woman to dispel her virginity, unless she is very unattractive; i.e., fat or weird looking. Love is harder to come by. If the objective is love, then making oneself available (not sitting at home) to the target group is the most likely way to success.
Roger
Nov 29, 2014 at 9:20am
You just need to get out there and you will meet the man of your dreams.
Age 30
Nov 29, 2014 at 2:55pm
is not that old even though it probably feels like it is right now. (I'm twice that..) People fall in love and marry at any age , even into their 50's, 60's, and 70's.
You have your whole life ahead of you so you never know when love will come your way. As far as having sex, I have to say that it feels pretty much the same with using a dildo if you just want to know the feeling. It sounds like you want a connection though.
seen it all
Nov 30, 2014 at 8:07am
Go out and do things that you are interested in-take classes, volunteer, travel etc-whatever you see yourself doing
Don't sweat or fret about your virginity.
Have fun!
Don't always be thinking about finding 'love'.
You'll be a lot happier.
Schizoid girl
Nov 30, 2014 at 9:49am
I'm not a virgin-far from it-but i have never experienced love either. I'm in my mid-thirties. Love and sex are two different things; anyone can have sex if they want, even you, just go to a bar or a dating site, but finding love is more complicated. If you focus on how you feel about people you might find someone you can love, and all the sex stuff will follow naturally. But sex without love is meaningless, I have never found it pleasurable for one. Getting a vibrator is not bad advice, it will help you "practice" until you find someone worthy. Good luck!
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