I KNOW I made the wrong choice. But without making that choice I would have never have known it was wrong. So, catch 22 really.

As for your situation. If they come back at all you're golden. Don't play it cool, just hold on and never let go. If they don't come back, they are just self involved nightmares that you don't need in your life. Count your lucky stars and move on to find something better.

Yeah! Don't you just hate it when you fall in love with space explorers or time travelers and then they are gone and you just can't contact them by EMAIL or PHONE.

If you were also in the wrong, why are you sitting around for the other party to make a move? Be the bigger person here.

Is all I have to say

to whomever that person is.... You should just say it... It's called closure... It's better than always wondering... Even if it fades, sometimes years later something might trigger the thought of this person and have you questioning it all over again and it may be too little too late... Plus who wants to look like a psycho years later lol.. Just saying

- Ms

I need closure with someone, but I fear I would look a bit like a psycho if I were to do this...I wish I handled things differently at the time, but I was young(er) and inexperienced in such matters. Lessons learned for the future.

so, look like a psycho! If their response back is negative and makes you feel like a psycho, at least you were the mature one. But I bet they wouldn't happen. They would appreciate hearing from you making amends, even after a great deal of time.

That would be the mature thing to do, and would certainly ease my mind, however it was a while ago and we barely got to know eachother. I think they would be a bit shocked to know I still thought about them.

Hearing from someone you haven't heard from in a long time is a GOOD thing. even if you feel you didn't have such a long connection it would make sense to recontact. connections are about intensity not length, and if you felt something intense maybe he/she did too. Anyway, I'm a hypocrite because I haven't reconnected with my lost connection (but she's married) so my loss. But you don't have to lose! Liquid courage, and email!

They might not be shocked to know you're still thinking about them. They might be thinking the very same thing about you in fact, but are too scared to do anything. I know this because I was just in the situation where both of us were too afraid to make a move and nothing ended up happening. And it really is a shame the more I think about it :( (which I can't seem to stop doing, no matter how hard I try).

So believe me, I get where you're coming from - I was the same way. But just a warning, if you don't do anything, it will continue to haunt you for a very long time.