A long-distance relationship can be healthy and happy

I hate talking about my relationship because it's long-distance. I love him but O don't want to hear people tell me it can't be a real relationship because of the distance. Who is anyone to tell me what my relationship is and isn't. If I don't talk about it, people demand why I don't bring my boyfriend to events and ask me if I'm ashamed of him. I tend to shrug it off but really I want to scream at them that it's none of their business and that I don't need to drag my boyfriend to every last social get together to show him off and have people judge us. I'm increasingly less social because too many people are waiting to attack a healthy and happy relationship.

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Nov 26, 2014 at 5:10am

If your long-distance relationship were truly "healthy and happy" as you claim, why would you care about what others think?

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Old Vic

Nov 26, 2014 at 6:57am

I and several of my friends have great long distance relationships -- and yes it is tiring hearing people say things they don't understand. I felt they were just jealous. Long distance relationships are special - and just try to ignore the comments and find some people that are more supportive. BTW - our relationships lasted and finally we are married and happy. The small sacrifice to gain the experience allowed us to change jobs for the long run,

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sure

Nov 26, 2014 at 7:12am

Its fin a as long as you know and can live with the fact he is having sex with other people.

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greenleigh9

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:17am

You guys are shitting all over this just like all the people this person is talking about. I for one absolutely HATE when people think something untrue of me. It is completely fair for her to care what the judgers think. It doesn't mean she's hiding anything.

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RUK

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:32am

Do you really want to scream? If that is actually how you feel and not just hyperbole, then you're not very happy with the long distance aspect. Your relationship is of course real, but every relationship is real. Not every relationship gives you what you need. If you were satisfied with this situation, why aren't you shrugging off questions like it is no big deal that he is never, ever around?

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They just don't work...

Nov 26, 2014 at 11:13am

Everyone changes, trust me on this. While you may love him and adore him till the end of the world, he may not. And you have to spend time together for it to actually be a relationship. If he is travelling back and forth and you do get to see him once in awhile, fine, it maybe ok and last. But if he's gone and gone for awhile, i wouldn't hold your breath. As he may meet someone else in his area after time and since it's been a long time that you haven't seen each other, he may want someone in the flesh to be present and spend time with. Like i said, they just don't work, but good luck anyways....

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Nov 26, 2014 at 11:39am

Relationships mean different things to different people. For some, it is sharing feelings and life experiences, for others (like the people bothering you) it is merely having someone to fuck and maybe escort you to places like McDonalds that you wouldn't dare go to alone.

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Nov 26, 2014 at 2:53pm

How can they share life experiences if he is never physically present? You mean sharing like pen pals?

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I know

Nov 26, 2014 at 4:42pm

I am also in a LDR. I get so tired of people asking me how I can live without sex constantly.... umm not having sex actually doesn't kill people. Or asking if we have Skype sex... none of your business!! And yes, it can work. We've been doing it LD for YEARS. It's not ideal, but when you find someone you want to be with you make sacrifices.

Long distance doesn't mean NEVER seeing the person; it means seeing the person less frequently than most other relationships. You can share things with humans from a distance, like Skype and emails, instant messaging, packages. And when you finally get to see them it's puppy love all over again.

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sky

Nov 27, 2014 at 12:20pm

you cannot sustain a long distance relationship forever. it's exciting and cool for a while...but if you don't make the sacrifice of moving closer it'll all fade away.

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