So Tired

posted November 26th, 2014 at 8:05 PM

I am tired of being the single one in my group of friends. I have come to the realization that I won't have the happy ending I always dreamed of. I have been cheated on and lied to by every man I have ever dated. It has gotten to the point where I view all men as monsters. Its hard going to birthday parties or any social functions. Being a single 37 year old female is horrible. The men you want to date are dating 20 something women and the men that want to date you are in their 50's. My friends continue to have children and milestones and its as if I am stuck in neutral. Getting older and more jaded by the minute. Please no comments about finding love when you least expect it or just getting out there. I am just tired of trying so hard and not getting anywhere.

27 Comments

Natty

Nov 26, 2014 at 9:20pm

I'm several years younger than you, but I hear ya. You get invited to girls' night and despite the wine that flows (they pumped earlier, so it's ok), all anyone wants to talk about is their kids. If arranged marriages were an option in Canada, I'd seriously consider it.

Not alone

Nov 26, 2014 at 9:26pm

Thank you. I'm in the exactly same situation and same age! Sometimes you feel all alone and your confession is comforting

You're not the only one!

Nov 26, 2014 at 9:29pm

I stayed home last night because I just couldn't bear to show up to another party alone. I keep thinking that one day things will change in a flash....but at the moment I'm just going through the motions. I really do try, though, to enjoy the things my friends with children can't (easily) do: traveling, dining out, being spontaneous, even just enjoying a nice peaceful cup of coffee...

No way

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:02pm

I really like men our age. I think they're at their best in the mid to late 30's. Just like us!

Dylan

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:07pm

I'm there. I've been there for years now! I've dated and/or waited on those who say the right things and feel right. But nothing comes. The only advice I can give/only thing I can say is to realize that the "meeting Mr/Ms. Right & living happily after" does not exist. You CAN find someone whom wants this and whom you could tolerate for life, but you have to know, understand, and realize that that is all it is. Two people who just don't want to be single. That is sad and a disaster in the making. Far more worse than watching other friends/family "finding love"... Be happy you're not STUCK

Hardcore

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:29pm

So what's wrong with men in their 50s?

Me

Nov 26, 2014 at 10:42pm

One morning, years ago, I came to work and there was a newspaper clipping placed on my desk. It was from one of my older and wiser coworkers. The article was titled "The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lori Gottlieb. So many of us are trying to find Mr. Right when Mr. Good Enough is right in front of our eyes or just around the corner. My coworker was trying to give me a hint that I was being too picky and trying to find a perfect man who didn't exist. She said I just had to find a man who respected me and was kind. Too bad I didn't listen to her advice...have dated many nice men since then but still held out...while my eggs are past their expiration date and I'm making dinner for one. Yep, you're not alone!

Same Boat

Nov 26, 2014 at 11:33pm

I feel your pain and I'm not here to offer up any hollow platitudes. Just know that you're not alone.

DD

Nov 26, 2014 at 11:48pm

This could've been written by me, except I don't want children, so I am not trying to bag a hubby. I think you are overlooking the obvious, if you are like me, you are repelled by the old men...DATE YOUNGER GUYS!! So vital-if ya catch my meaning!!