Tinder and POF

What is with the people on these "dating" sites? I have used both pof then tinder with the hopes of meeting some new woman outside of my social circle. I know it is to be taken with a grain of salt, but everytime i start talking with someone the same thing happens. Conversation is going good and it comes to the time to ask about meeting up or exchanging numbers and that person disappears. Never logs on again or deletes their profile. It sounds ridiculous but are these accounts fake? Not the real person from the pictures? Are they old pictures and she is 300 pounds now? Is it a guy pretending to be woman with the hopes of getting dick pics? Are they just bored and this is their form of amusement? Odd too when you see some woman on there forever like they are never without a profile. Are they lonely escorts dreaming of a regular relationship but afraid to commit for obvious reasons? I know it is online dating and nobody takes it seriously but still I want some insight... and I want to bitch about something like everyone else. It may be pathetic to complain about this, but i think it is wayyyyyyy more pathetic to make fake profiles and pretend you're something or someone you're not.

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try

Nov 23, 2014 at 8:11am

Okcupid I've had much better luck.

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mikeyblueeyes980 a pof user

Nov 23, 2014 at 9:04am

you got it so spot on mate couid not of said it better its a load of bullshit for bullshiters who have allready messed up in life and genral a total waste of time and effort i have meet a few freaks on ther sure are thanks mike

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I came to the conclusion....

Nov 23, 2014 at 11:38am

after working for a couple months in an office full of single women: it's an ego trip for many of them.

They put up a profile-and if anywhere attractive-get many messages every day. I'd see them on their POF page,looking at the odd message-not even checking the guy's profile-and then delete them all.
A few kept their messages, a few of them had a few thousand responses.
I'd hear chit chat at the water cooler like "oh I had 130 messages on the weekend,as usual a bunch of losers"

And then I'd overhear their laments-almost on a daily basis-"there's no men in Vancouver"

I had a profile,gave out many well thought out messages and had a female approved (my cousin and child hood friend) profile with good pix.
And very very few would even bother to even look at my profile.
OK,some guys have lousy intros,but come on at least look at them.

So,it's an ego trip and/or they assume that if you're on a dating site- you are s loser.

And BTW when you search POF, you'll see something like "600 women in the Vancouver meet your citeris" but if you look you see many of the same profiles 5-10 times.
So there may be only may be 50 or 100 in truth.

So: it's an ego trip,or they think you are a loser for being on the site.

I Have

Nov 23, 2014 at 12:02pm

A love hate relationship with online dating. I've had some great dates. Last night was pretty bad. The guy looked nothing like his photo and was too arrogant for what he was worth. On the other hand, my best friend just got married to his girlfriend who he met online. I have no problem meeting up with someone who I think might be a match but unfortunately, there is no way that online dating can ever trump meeting people the traditional way. It is also way too much work.

Good luck!

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tony

Nov 23, 2014 at 12:15pm

tinder and POF I've used a lot and this is my take on it. There are SOME (not a lot) or normal girls but they're very few and far between because both these services are FREE. Sometimes you get what you pay for.
My advise:
1. Don't try and meet girls online, go out more
2. Pay for something like match.com, everyone on there has to pay which means they're actually serious about meeting someone. I won't say there's not nutters on there too but it's a much safer bet

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No, no , no

Nov 23, 2014 at 12:44pm

It doesn't matter whether you pay or not. I've tried it and you still get dishonest people who are generally not ready for anything serious or are even seriously real. What really gets me is that you have these average-attractive people with great profiles and you have to ask why in their " awesome happy lives", they are unsuccessful at dating? It's hook-ups, liars and narcissists who don't really want much other than some attention-the percentage of honest and serious seekers must be very low. At the end of it all it leaves you feeling grateful for the life you do have whether someone is in it or not. And , yes it is a draining process that could be time better spent on real people out in the real world doing real things.

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Is this Wonderland?

Nov 23, 2014 at 12:51pm

These sites are not worth your time. While they do offer the opportunity to meet folks in the same boat as you, the pool is very small and chances slim because, as you've experienced, they quickly come to the very same conclusion that the well's dry and contaminated/toxic and they move on. Re-select your rabbit and follow ;)

Natty

Nov 23, 2014 at 12:53pm

Personally, there are a few reasons why I would stop messaging after initial contact:

1: The conversation is severely lacking. If the guy is only answering my questions and not asking any in return, I'm going to move on.

2: A bitter/holier than thou attitude.

3: I'd say more than 4 messages back and forth with no talk of meeting up.

Don't feel too bad though. I will very rarely send an initial message, but when I do I have pretty poor results. I write the kind of things I'd happily respond to if they were sent to me, and while maybe I'll get a reply, usually I don't. And the ones who reply initially then ignore my other messages. Which is why I generally watch my inbox and hope that one of the guys I'm interested in will contact me.

Online dating is pretty sad.

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Sorry but ....

Nov 23, 2014 at 1:02pm

Match sucks. Way way too much baggage on that site. My experience with that one is married three times with three kids. DOn't pay for Match unless you've got baggage yourself than you can at least find alot of people with alot of common ground.

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Once was lost, still lost

Nov 23, 2014 at 1:52pm

I had a Tinder account for a brief stint earlier this year because....

#1.Absolute revenge. One of my single girlfriends let me know she had seen my boyfriend and his profile on there! I figured "2 can play at that game, honey."

#2. The App came free with my phone.

But honestly, it gave me the creeps! When I would match up with a fellow and he would message me "hey wassup?" 30 seconds later, it got me thinking...."Yeah this site reeks of desperation." and I deleted it soon afterwards.

FWIW: currently single and LOVING it!! good luck to you.

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