dating vs. divorce

i think i want to get a divorce but all this constant talk about how the dating scene in Vancouver is so bad, you are making me question if I would just be as happy to stay and suck it up.....

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Dec 18, 2014 at 2:22pm

you probably can't afford the divorce.

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Well, here's the thing...

Dec 18, 2014 at 2:48pm

I always say if someone feels like they want to break up/separate/divorce then obviously there is a problem in the relationship and that's NOT normal. Nobody should be thinking this and just because dating is hard in this city (it definitely can be) it doesn't mean you should be staying with this person ok?. You may meet someone you're compatible with next week, next year or years down the road. That's the chance you have to take. Don't be scared to be on your own, geez. The fact that you are thinking of the Divorce isn't normal, you should in fact get one and just because dating is hard in this city doesn't mean you shouldn't get one and you never know who you'll meet later on. Life is a risk, have fun with it and see where it goes. I did and just love my new gf :)

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NK

Dec 18, 2014 at 2:48pm

Get a divorce because you are no longer invested in your marriage, not to trade up. I hope your spouse has a chance at happiness if you stay in an unhappy marriage just because you are too much of a wimp to face yourself as a single person. You have much more to reflect on before any person should date you.

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That's

Dec 18, 2014 at 2:52pm

Absurd

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erm

Dec 18, 2014 at 3:02pm

Why do you need to be with anyone? How about get a divorce and be single? Just have lots with different people, and be on your own until you are ready to be with someone.

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Natty

Dec 18, 2014 at 3:13pm

So this is probably the fruit of the advice from all you people advising singletons to "just settle". Awesome, let's be together when we neither love or respect each other.

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supershy

Dec 18, 2014 at 3:14pm

yes, b/c being in a loveless marriage is so much better than being single.

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Quit whining

Dec 18, 2014 at 3:22pm

After my divorce I had no problems with the "dating scene" but then again most who do appear to be from the shallow end of the gene pool. I met a wonderful woman without much trouble and we have been together almost a year now. My ex is stumbling down a path of drunken sex and one-night stands but I am happier than I have ever been. If you are staying in a marriage because you heard the dating scene is bad you need therapy.

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ummmmm no. just no. dont' stay.

Dec 18, 2014 at 4:37pm

So many people stay together out of fear of being alone. I left my long term relationship almost 3 years ago and it was the best decision I have ever made. Dating has been hilarious, fun, and yes, at times, challenging. I've been surprised that I have yet to find any sort of serious relationship, and sometimes I wonder/worry if I ever will. But even if I am alone for the rest of my life, it is better than settling and being in something that does not fulfill you, bring out the best in you, and makes you unhappy.

Anytime I start to get frustrated, I just remember how sad I was-how sad I felt being misunderstood and like things were not "Right".

And, honestly, I have learned SO much about myself through all these dating adventures, and met so many interesting people, that it's all been totally worth it.

But I also agree with everyone else in saying that if you are so worried about being alone, you should probably do some "self work".

Good luck!

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Sheesh

Dec 18, 2014 at 5:14pm

I don't agree with other posters.

"I think I want a divorce" - sounds like you're not certain. Try some marriage counselling first to make sure this is the right step for you. Marriages can go through bumps and sometimes there are wrinkles that can be worked out. If the counselling doesn't help, then you'll know you've tried and you will be able to say, for certain, "I want a divorce".

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