The imagined consequences are usually much more serious than the real ones turn out to be.

As long as you are absolutely clear about your goals and expectations, it is almost always better to communicate than not.

There may (and usually does) come a day when telling the person is no longer possible, and hesitation turns to regret.

Regrets frequently last forever, or so it seems.

...But if you speak, the result may be better than you could imagine, even if it is different than your expectation.

Know exactly how you feel

Say something. Even if you don't get the reaction you're expecting, isn't it better to know than not know?

i could like you right back, so frickin hard. over. and. over.

that the person is married to someone else?

why can't you say something? because another person who is somehow involved will read your explanation and catch you? this is like one of those messages in the invitation. or a perfect murder. oooo, exciting

Re: Is one of the reasons... No, they're not married.
Re: my sad life... They might be able to figure out it's me, and very well already could have if they even read this site.

They probably don't recognize you in the slightest. You feel obvious, but I bet they'er clueless.

I really like you too!! But I've been alone for so long, I think I might need something that you're not able to give me. Everything I say to you feels insincere and like I'm digging my own hole in the ground, which leads me to suspect I need to cut you off.

I just want to see you, A. I don't expect exclusivity (at least not at this point) or to see you more than a few times a month. I swear I'm trying not to be needy, but you need to give me some kind of encouragement, because girls aren't the only ones with options.

Silly, you mean deep-seated and I know you like me. I have long known that. And I adore you. You are so fearful of consequences yet you choose to be miserable to make others happy, to live their lives instead of your own. They are not living their life according to whether you are happy or not. Why are you?

I know it's not that simple, that there is more to all this, but we both know where you will be happy. And by staying as is you condemn them to being in a prison of apathy instead of being free to find and be with someone else , to have a better chance of happiness as well. You need to trust that freeing you both will be the best for all.

And you can reach out. You know how; there are many safe ways, many innocent ways. It is no crime to talk.. It's killing us both to not do so.