I met the love of my life on POF. And know a few friends that have had long term relationships due to POF. It can be a bit seedy, but just weed them out.

Go with OKCupid! Soooo much better.

Haven't tried Match. Maybe some others will comment on it.

computers bad. Humans good. Learn courage and speak to men directly, the results will be amazing.

Friend of mine tried a bunch, and it took a while, but Match worked out really well for him.

It helps if you are willing to be at least a little bit flexible, and not like "looking for a left-handed wind-shifter, purple, used no more than twice and kept indoors at all times". Bit like a rummage sale, you'd be surprised what you'll find.

going out and looking friendly and approachable-this means maybe even smiling at guys,unfolding your arms,and perhaps even asking him some question.

Oh,and leave "The List" at home.

I suggest, and have had more potential connections, just getting out there and conversing. Recently I have and although I have only met duds thus far, I have had laughs too...at least it is taking less effort getting to the "Cute-Meet" and you can feel the chemistry and comfort quite quickly. On-line dating is probably good for the "listers" so if you have one then maybe those venues are right up your alley to peruse personality/marketable resumes prior to making a date. I dated online and got picked apart by the listers-not fun when the lists are petty and I prefer the element of surprise when out and about-you never know who you're going to meet.

Don't bother with eharmony because a lot of the guys on there are also on POF. Match was my favorite pay-site.

Don't write off Tinder - it's just like meeting people in public places. If you see a guy you like at Starbucks, do you know what his favorite book is, what his occupation is, what his hobbies are and what his education level is, just by looking at him? That's what Tinder is. Meeting people and assessing them at face value, just like you would in real life.

I met an amazing guy on OKCupid, so there is hope. And POF is now not so bad because Tinder has the bad reputation now!

Also, try speed dating. It's fun and you get to meet guys right away instead of spending time weeding through profiles.

Good luck!

How about getting off the computer and actually meeting people in person? I know peoples time is limited and its easier said than done, but sitting behind a keyboard scouring profiles probably won't cut it.

Stop the hypocrisy.

Reality check: all the people posting here about "getting out in person with your courageous self", are doing so anonymously, from a computer.

During my DJ days (as a second job for a couple of years), I mostly worked pubs, bars, restaurants, and a couple of clubs. Will ignore special occasions, because they are not relevant here.

There were usually three behavioral categories of people:
[1] Trying to rub up against each other, with alcohol as lubricant; once the parts match up (more or less), they go off to finish the job elsewhere (or sometimes right on the premises somewhere),
[2] Sticking closely to the group in which they arrived, for safety (apparently),
[3] Playing eye contact chicken with each other, around and between [1] and [2].

I really can't blame people for avoiding this sort of thing. It's expensive, time-consuming, frustrating, unhealthy, and often fruitless (except for Category [1]). Qualifying candidates online (smoking, drinking, kids, animals, status, goals, likes, etc.) is NOT a bad idea.

....UR assuming I and the others meant a night club.