I think I'm going to leave her

I've been dating a nice woman for close to a year now. We get along great, have a good sex life, don't argue and seem to be on the same page. But I don't love her and she has expressed that she loves me. I think I have to end it before she asks me to move in with her (I can feel that it's coming and she owns her own place). But I don't have a "reason" for not being in love and I can't explain it. I just don't love her and can't pretend that I do.

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Mar 29, 2015 at 8:14pm

leave her and give her a chance to find someone who will love her and be 'in' love with her.

You'll end up leaving her one day, anyway, better sooner than later.
Good luck, this is sad.

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Natty

Mar 29, 2015 at 9:07pm

You must have realized you felt this way earlier on in your relationship. I mean after a year, to be telling her you don't have these feelings and never will...that's a douche move. I don't think it's possible for you to make a graceful exit. Any way, shape or form you will come off as a jerk.

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Love is so weird

Mar 29, 2015 at 10:44pm

Sometimes I hate it-because everything you describe sounds wonderful, and yet you can't control the fact that the love is not there. But I have to ask-how long have you known this? And why have you kept it going for so long? I would feel so sad if I had been with a man for a whole year who did not love me. I think after dating for that long I would assume that the feelings ran deep enough to warrant love.

Anyway, yes, you obviously need to end it. Let her get a chance to find someone who WILL love her.

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Close to a year???

Mar 29, 2015 at 11:26pm

and you don't love her?
WTF . why did you lead her on all that time? for good sex? you should have said something long ago. you wasted her time.

tell her the truth for gawd sake . stop dragging this out. poor girl.

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I never know

Mar 29, 2015 at 11:54pm

What does love look like?

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well

Mar 30, 2015 at 2:25am

what 'I never know' said. I dated a girl 9 years. Do I love her? I say I do, yet I still desire just about any willing female.

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Wally

Mar 30, 2015 at 3:30am

Good sex seems like reason enough to hang around until something better comes along!! Enjoy it while you've got it.

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supershy1

Mar 30, 2015 at 9:23am

I think the overt criticism of the OP is not fair; most likely he/she felt all of those check marks applied so he/she were trying to convince themselves that with everything so great, that this should be 'love'. Calling it a douche move w/out knowing the full context is a bit unfair. It's a bit of projecting IMO.

OP - there's no easy way out. Just do it now. Prolonging it will only prolong the hurt. If you don't feel anything now; it's most likely you won't. (though, I do wonder why you don't...it sounds a lot better than 90% of the relationships out there).

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People, at least he's honest..

Mar 30, 2015 at 9:40am

And they rip into this guy for being honest? Some people on these forms are seriously crazy. Just be thankful it wasn't 10 years later, sometimes you give love a chance and a year is long. But it's not that long people... If you're feeling this now, then its best to tell her and that's too bad since she really does love you. But you can't fake love and it's better to let her go and find someone else. I wish you both the best!

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You *think*?

Mar 30, 2015 at 10:00am

Sounds like you can't stand to be alone for 5 minutes. Any warm body will do.

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