Going anonymous for this, prepared for legendary flames.

Vancouver is the toughest town for this. The quest of the narrow minority of guys who are out to score and nothing else, has been generalized to the entire male population. The rest of us get responses ranging from aloof to rabidly hostile, with VERY few exceptions.

Some of us actually just want to hang out, talk, whatever...personally, I don't know you well enough to want to get freaky with you. There may be unwelcome side effects.

Ladies, if you can't bear to part with a tiny shred of your precious dignity for the sake of a conversation, even when the other party explicitly states that there are no strings or consequences, we'll be going elsewhere.

I'm reminded of the jive-speaking nun in the movie "Airplane!", when she said, "Chump don' want no help, chump don' get no help."

more generational canadian first world problems. Learn to date other, in Vancouver we are blessed with beautiful women from the world over. No reason you need to date the local ladies. Date the imports, everyone else does.

People who are away from home tend to enjoy themselves more. No job worries, no relationship troubles, and if they're here on business on a per diem, no having to think about what to cook for dinner tonight! I find joy in my day-to-day, and I don't own a smartphone, but I guess I'm not "hot" enough approached or something.

I approached a guy once because he was telling the Japadog stand how great their food was. Turns out he's here on business from Toronto, and I ending up walking him to the art gallery just because.

I'm Asian, but Canadian-born, and men have rejected me on that basis alone. Totally hilarious. I guess he's not patient enough to talk to me and discover what my values are. Then again, I've been told by strangers and friends that I'm an anomaly, so I guess I'll be single for a while longer.

I have this problem but with meeting and making friends in general, not just dating. All the best friends I've made were from a land far far away and then they always go home so I'm forced to return to square one. It seems like if you didn't make your friends in high school, you're fucked.

....at times, both sexes can assume too much about the other before getting to know them and really know how they think. We can put up walls because of our insecurities and fears or we can also get angry and frustrated because of them. Recognizing that we all want genuine connections with others in our lives is the first step towards liberation of these limiting thoughts and judgments.

Of course they are going to be outgoing and friendly…they are on vacation, experiencing something new, excited, out of their element, etc.

For someone who loves intelligent, fun women:
1) you don't know how to spell
2) you don't seem like much fun (Hobbies are for the elderly?? What do you do during your free time? Pick up women, that's it?)

Shut up already. As everyone with half a fucking brain cell knows, if the same thing keeps happening to you over and over again with various people, the one thing in common is YOU. You are the problem.

And I will add that, as a wonderfully gregarious and attractive woman, the only men I have met here who go out of their way to actually talk, have good conversations, and show a modicum of humour/personality are NOT FROM HERE.

@Sigh

Actually, I'm not from here.

Vancouver is the worst place I've seen for this sort of thing (but maybe LA is worse); even NY is not this callous.

And if you're in the habit of telling people to shut up, you're one of the women I'm talking about, because that makes you rather less gregarious and FAR less attractive.

Here's a partial list of places where I have been anywhere from a week to years (long enough to talk to locals):

UK
Italy
Austria
Russia
The Baltics
Ukraine
Australia
Caribbean islands (lots of them)
Uruguay
US (AZ, MI, IL, MO, FL, PA, NY, NJ, UT, OR, TX, NC, CT, MA, NV)
Ontario (Toronto, Ottawa, Guelph, Windsor)

Going back to South America soon, and they're pretty friendly.

Sorry, if the shoe fits, it may be yours. The horde of complaining women does indeed suggest a pattern. Dignity is FAR more important than talking to men.

The results speak for themselves. LOUDLY.