How can you expect people to love you for who you are, when you don't even love yourself ? If you think you are overweight, do something about it.
And if you are overweight and totally happy, that's ok too.
The only person that can make you happy is YOU !!!
Tell that nasty voice in your head to shut the fuck up and let the light in.

You should have a baby so people will understand why you don't have time for self maintenance. Keep moving forward!

honey, honestly it is all in how you treat/see yourself. If you have a beautiful heart, it will shine through no matter if you have a beautiful face or not. I am sure tons of people think you're a fun person to be around because of your beautiful contagious personality :) If that's not the case, just work on you...don't worry about what others think. If you want to work on your personality or way you see the world, take a long walk, a long bubble bath, a small trip somewhere. explore and "find yourself". if you want to work on your health, do it :) people who are "fit" all started somewhere, right? you can do it. find ways that help keep you having that active lifestyle while having fun :) endless options out there :) ... and most importantly try not to compare yourself to others. find something that's unique about you and LOVE the hell out of it! LOVE YOU FOR BEING YOU! you're a gem, I am sure of it

So I know where you're coming from, I used to be the sane way and I'm a guy. Dropped a lot of pthe weight, and I look good but I'll never get that verbal confirmation from a stranger.

Just not meant for some of us. That's okay! I know I look good, I bet you do too. You just gotta realize it.

I know and see many overweight people in loving relationships and their partners think they are beautiful.
If you really think someone of value will ever tell you they love you because you are beautiful, you are dead wrong. It's a horrible reason to be loved, if it can even be called love. Want proof? Count the number of supermodels that have been cheated on.

Any girl I've ever fell in love with has never wowed me at first glance.
Its always after I've talked to her and found interesting things that I see her in a different light. Evolution does not choose the beautiful - its a disaster zone really - better off being smart!

The problem might not be your weight. It might be your attitude. You want people to get to know you but if they do it looks like they'll learn you're a high-maintenance whiner who needs constant reassurance.

If your weight is bothersome, change it.

Better yet, be smart, confident, fun and sexy. Your weight won't matter. People will say you're voluptuous.

Is a health problem: heart attack,stroke,blown out hips knees and feet,it's hard on every organ in your body etc etc so NO she shouldn't accept the way she is and her weight matters and she should get healthy.

I'm going to throw out something you may have not considered, and I do so from a place of understanding. I just realized that the reason it hurt so much to feel like an overweight, ugly outsider is that I am as much a part of the society that I like to complain about. What I mean to say is, I am just as shallow as the bulk of people. I hold the thin/young/affluent/beautiful ideals as much as the next person and therefore I judge myself accordingly for not being "perfect". I do have friends who don't fit that mold and have happy, loving relationships and friendships, and exciting dating lives. I asked myself why? Was it confidence? Yes, but not only that, they just are not as superficial as I was. Fat/ugly, or thin/pretty, it doesn't matter if you're not shallow & superficial. We live in a world that has made "Selfies" a daily given. Don't buy in! There are so many more important things in life. Cultivate integrity, intelligence, and character, and perhaps seek out some counseling on this topic. I gave that gift to myself and it changed my life. Just a simple twist in perspective. You will still encounter superficial people , but have faith that there are others in this world who see 'appearances' as unimportant to focus on.