Good thing you're both human (I assume).

If I were you, I would ask yourself: Do I want to be with a partner who is so close-minded that they don't value and respect a culture outside of their own? If this person is not willing to compromise with you, then they don't love you as much as you deserve. It might be time to have a conversation and rip off the band-aid if they don't respect you as they expect you to value them.

What is it about the country where your partner doesn't want to be that you love so much? Is it just the culture itself, job opportunities, values, former friendships, etc? How important are these things to you? Knowing what it is specifically that is drawing you to each place, and how significant those things are in your life, would help be helpful in terms of offering advice.

nest by a pond

floating nest?id say fish bowl but that seems to unfair

I'm going to make a few assumptions... that you are either Asian or Middle Eastern and your lover is Caucasian, and likely lives here?

IF that's correct, you are asking too much from them. You're asking someone who lives in (arguably) one of the most livable cities in the world, located in a region on the globe that is clean, beautiful and strife free... to pack up and move somewhere that is oppressed, unstable and polluted! If you were born there (wherever there is), and you have a history and family there... it's easy to understand your connection and desire to return.

You can't expect someone who wasn't born in these places to hold the same sentiments.

Are you happy belonging to these two different cultures yourself, or are you trying to transfer your inability to choose one of them on your partner?