Sounds a little bit childish to me. As you both age you will find none of this behaviour continues into adulthood. I can only guess what he wrote about the two of you, was probably full of spelling and grammatical errors as well. This will all pass, like bad gas.

Aren't you doing the same thing right now?

You see it from your side and you wrote this. He see's it from his side and he wrote what he wrote.

I get that you writing is a product of him writing. But you haven't put him in a good spot light. People reading this will think he is childish and immature.

Yeah, Shibby baby. Childish and immature.

I.m.o, The girl writing this sounds emotionally cold and perhaps low on the whole emotional introspective.

He would ask you out for dinner and you really couldn't tell he liked you? He tell's you he likes you and you give an "ok, whatever response."

I understand you are writing from the whole innocent girl side, but here is my take.

It sounds like you obtain a bf pretty quickly, from your writing. If one guy doesn't make a move then you are onto the next; leaving little time to actually build trust and support in a relationship. While dating the new guy, because lack of actual connection, you continue to see dudes on the sides for dinner and perhaps attention and claim "platonic." Perhaps you just can't pick up on others emotions are carelessly throw them to the side but you are going out for dinner at the other dudes expense (emotional or not).

Maybe I am old school, but all the people I know who have GF's, there GF's don't make it a habbit to go out fordinner outings with other dudes. From experience, dudes want to go out for dinner because they either like you, or want to fuck you, or you have been friends for the longest time. If you havn't picked up on this by your age ( I am guessing over 22) then I think you like to play the innocent card but know exactly what you are doing. Attention seeking.

Trust me when I say, there are many more loving females out in the world which have much more to offer in a relationship than what you have to offer. They don't need to continue seeing other guys on the side, and they are real and looking for real love. I sense a lack of true love and fulfillment in your relationships and I also sense they are largely based on superficial ideas.

Both parties sound wishy-washy flip-floppy. I was 21 once, too, and I've done flakey things (some of which I've apologized for 10+ years after the fact) because I was pulled in all directions by hormones, my parent's wishes, my ego, peer pressure, influence from the media, and who knows what else. The "guy in question" says he's not interested in a relationship and then he says he's really into her? The OP's friends tell her he's interested in her and yet she goes into denial when they go out together?

And this is why I always playfully clarify if dinner is a "date" or not BEFORE I go to said dinner (or not).

And the OP's conclusion is unrelated. An ambiguous platonic-or-not situation inside one social group has nothing to do with women being standoffish or hard to approach. Come back with a story about being stalked down the street after you accidentally smiled at a stranger because you were having a good day. THAT scares women into being standoffish.

what Shibby said! I've been the guy getting dragged about for attention while she plays another too. No sympathy OP. I'm thinking what he wrote is closer to the truth than your post.

Generalizing from one unfortunate encounter to all men in Vancouver always works. Ask anyone.

This concludes the sarcasm part of our exercise.

So one passive aggressive moment followed by another passive aggressive moment followed by a passive aggressive generalization that one equals ALL by the spokes person for all women in Vancouver.

WOW, my dick just said adios, put on some shoes and walked right out, it didn't even close the door.

The dude told the girl he wasn't into dating or being in a relationship, but asked the girl out again.

They met through friends so a "platonic" relationship was already established.

When he didn't get what he wanted he cried about it, in a public forum no less. Sounds like his ego took a blow, and he's still single.

And ENTIRE MONTH went by between their first "date" and the second time they hung out one on one. If I were the girl, I'd assume the guy wasn't interested and move on (which is exactly what she did). It sounds like the guy is upset over a relationship he made up in his head.