Being a mother of three children myself, it can be daunting. Not that I know your relationship with your mother or the circumstance of the house-hold; but you're setting the example for your children to follow when they are older with a family. Would you want a call or card or acknowledgment on Mother's Day when your little one's are grown with grandkids? Or do you wish your children later in life to leave you the hell alone; and move far away to Hawaii? I'm sure your mother loves you greatly, as much as you love your kids; and she would do anything for you. I'm sure one day of sacrifice a year isn't going to send you to the hospital. Just be thankful she's still around; because many of us aren't so lucky.

To have my mother around...and yes, I have children too. Why can't you just visit her with flowers, take her to a park, or lunch with your children, and then spend the rest of the day being pampered yourself?? That's how I managed the balance.

my mom takes over the whole day like it is exclusively for her and I don't get a break. She does not have dependant children any more like I have now. I just think grammas should take a back seat to the younger generation especially when they no longer have kids living with them. She wants me to put on a dinner for her and clean up her house. Hello were is my Mother's Day I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old. My mom is retired and travels. You get we're I'm coming from now!

Now I'm curious and have questions. Do you make dinner at her place or does she come to your home? Why would you have to clean her house, if it's only her and not messy? Why isn't your husband/companion doing anything for you on Mother's Day? Why can't you express a standard because you're an adult now? Obviously it's created discontent and bitterness; maybe it's time to be honest with her. Find a mutual compromise instead of blowing up a vital relationship, and she has no clue what's going on. Nothing says love like broad-siding your mom and running her over with a bus on Mother's Day.

No matter the age she is still your mother

my husband is very supportive and a good father. He makes plans for me on Mother's Day and my mom barges her way in to fit her agenda she does not respect my boundaries there is no compromise with her she is a controlling person and very manipulative I don't want to waist my Mother's Day at her place making her dinner and cleaning it up she does not have the same roll as hands on full time mom with dependants like she did 20 years ago yet she expects to be catered to like she still works and has 3 kids living at home she is retired now and a gramma me and my sister are the busy moms and we don't get a break really because our mom is too demanding on our Mother's Day
When my kids are grown and have families of their own I will take a back seat to my kids if they are sleep deprived full time working parents because it will be more about them
You are dense if you don't get my point

Give me your mothers information so I can honor her instead. She raised you and gave you life, that alone should be enough reason for you to want to celebrate ONE day of the year with her.

Well good. It sounds like you've made your decision. Quite frankly, I feel desperately sorry for your mother. You have not said ONE kind word about her. You yourself have sounded ungrateful and like spoiled brat! And guess what; you're not the only mother with young kids, I myself have awesome twin boy toddlers with combined energy of the sun, and also a beautiful daughter in school. I have changed more diapers than a mountain!! Suck it up!! This poor me attitude makes you more unbearable than a stinky dirty dish rag.

It's not about "needing" your mom, it's about appreciating her and all that she's done for you…a way of saying thanks.

For me, I honestly feel nothing emotional when it comes to Mothers Day or Fathers Day. To me, their nothing more than a marketing ploy that was thought up decades ago and we continue the trend to this day. The year, when you hear an announcement, 'No Mothers Day this year', that will never happen.

Prepare yourself a day or two in advance and just buy your Mother either, breakfast, lunch or dinner with your family is all you need to do.