Life skipped me

I'm in my mid 30s and have never had a real relationship or been in love. Its getting harder and harder watching all my friends find great partners and have families but me. I like my life and am happy on my own but can't stop wondering what love is like and why I can't experience it. I can't relate to any stories or songs about relationships. I am always silent when my girlfriends talk about normal girl things, I have nothing to contribute. None of my friends seem to notice or care. They skip me when we bring up dating or relationships over dinner. Have tried lots of things to meet people but I haven't had one good experience. My last date ended with me calling the police. After that, I decided to stop all efforts to find someone. I wonder if i will ever get a turn.

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You are not alone!

May 24, 2015 at 4:13pm

I am in the exact same boat. I don't have to tell you that some days are harder than others. You just have to stay distracted. Read, go for walks, and surround yourself with people who don't care about your relationship status. Spend less time with couples if it makes you uncomfortable. Your happiness should come first - whether you find someone or not. Dating has also been very discouraging for me, and I have also stopped actively looking. You have to get to the point where you don't believe that ending up alone is the worst fate possible. It really isn't. Independence is awesome!

I found this amazing video that really helped me:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs

Also - listen to this podcast about "the new age spinster":
http://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/the-current-for-may-20-2015-1.3080098...

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daisyb

May 24, 2015 at 7:19pm

... did I sleep type? Eerily similar to my situation.

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Echo

May 24, 2015 at 8:10pm

Exact same situation here. Mid 30s, and never been in love....just unrequited feelings with a few from the past. It seems to get harder. Being alone and worst of all, lonely, now that time is passing and less people having time for you, is not ideal. Wish I met some people in similar posts but that would defeat the anonymity. But there's a calm to know I'm not the only one.

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Stop the pity party

May 25, 2015 at 5:47am

"I decided to stop all efforts to find someone" and "I wonder if i will ever get a turn" are diametrically opposed thoughts.

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go travel!

May 25, 2015 at 8:32pm

love finds you when you least expect it! try something new, travel and put your energy else where!

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An idea

May 26, 2015 at 7:39am

@echo,@daisy,@not alone

Sounds like you are all in a similar situation. Perhaps you'd benefit from connecting with eachother? If you don't mind losing some anonymity you could maybe post something in the "I Saw You" column and find eachother that way? Just an idea...

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Ha ha

May 27, 2015 at 10:10am

"My last date ended with me calling the police."

That's pretty funny!

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