My Dad didn't know who I even was most of the time at the end. Sorry you are going through this. All I can offer is enjoy the lucid times and ride out the tough times until another lucid time hits.

As someone going through the same thing --- I have set my mother up with google calendar - we've put all the family dates in there - we set them as recurring, as happening 5 days before, so she can get a card sent if she wants, then on the day of another alert, so she can call. She loves it. All our family can contribute to the calendar.

We also use the calendar so we can schedule who among the children will pickup them up for doctor's appts etc... much easier than playing telephone tag.

I am a Mom and so I would like to wish you a very Happy Birthday ,Sweetheart!
Lots of Love & Hugs & Kisses to you.
Xoxoxo

(Hugs) my mother had dementia and died recently. I know and feel your pain. You know that she loved you and that her ability to express that love was stolen from her. Celebrate her and love others as she did you. Do the kind things she did, in her name. That way she can live forever in your and other's hearts.

...You should phone your mom instead on your birthday and help her remember you, silly Billie

To @ Maybe: I do phone Mom a lot but she is often not willing or able to come to the phone. If is tell her it's my birthday, she will be embarrassed and feel bad that she didn't remember, you silly Billie. It's not just about a call, it's about a change involving a milestone.
Thank you to all those who responded for your kind words. I especially found helpful the comment explaining that her ability to express her love was in some ways stolen from her.