Dear young gay couple in 1993

Dear young gay couple in 1993, You were sitting together on the curb near the entrance of Science World. I was walking in with my church youth group. I was 17 and bigoted, taught that you were wrong and sinful. You were happy, sitting close, having fun, smooching a little, probably waiting for some friends. We walked in as a group, excited, adventurous, privileged. My friend pointed you out with a gasp of surprise and disgust. I looked over to see you together, relaxed and confident, and I said out loud, "Ewww, gross." I don't remember your reaction and I don't know if you heard me. As we walked away I felt a prick of shame. Outwardly I had acted as if it was you who should be ashamed, but for over 20 years it has been me who carries this shame. I'm writing this today to apologize for my behavior. Dear young gay couple in 1993, I am so sorry. I am so sorry I treated you as second class citizens and ruined that sweet moment you were having. I want you to know that shortly after this youth group trip I entered college and my whole world changed. My learned bias and my belief in homosexuality as a sin was flipped upside down as I was exposed to new people and new ideas. I have walked away from the religion that taught me to hate. My life is now one of empowering and advocating for young people. 20 years later I carry my shame as a reminder to check my privilege. I consider myself an ally and I hope my advocacy over the years has righted some of my wrongs. Wherever you are I hope you're each still sitting close with a loved one and living a wonderful life. With a heartfelt apology, A kid who learned the truth

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Beautiful confession!

Jul 2, 2015 at 5:08pm

This gave me goosebumps. I'm proud of you!

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Ha ha ha

Jul 2, 2015 at 5:36pm

you didn't learn the truth.
You're still an automaton unable to think for itself; you simply adopted the flavor of propaganda on tap at your college.

Bravo, robot!!!

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Beautiful.

Jul 3, 2015 at 12:54am

Thanks for this

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Anonymous

Jul 3, 2015 at 9:41am

You just gave into following the herd instead of being true to your own feelings. Sad really!?

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another idea

Jul 3, 2015 at 11:40am

Congratulations on getting free of your chains Try to remember that chagrin often accompanies enlightenment. Use this to empower rather than eat away at you.

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Anonymous

Jul 3, 2015 at 11:53am

A nice apology. Thank you.

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plagiarism isn't cool, even if it's a "good" message

Jul 4, 2015 at 9:07am

I've read this exact same confession elsewhere. Best of Craigslist. Apparently originally posted April 25, 2015, 2:56 pm. But in Omaha instead of Vancouver, and "Worlds of Fun" instead of "Science World".

Very lame of you, fake poster.

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