you've already figured it out.

She's possibly an attention whore and you're enabling the behavior?

Have you ever asked her out? Like, on a date? Maybe she's still hanging on to the attention and waiting for you to man up?

She is dragging you along as a back up plan of some type or she is one of these girls who needs to be in a relationship all the time but can't stop flirting with other guys whenever the bf isn't around. Trust me dude, you shouldn't have to struggle or feel stressed if it's the right thing. Move along

I agree, if you really want her you need to go all out and tell her exactly what drives you crazy about her. If you have done that already you need to start focusing that precious time on someone else. There are so many people in this world searching for exactly the same thing your looking for. Whatever you do don't waste your time on something you can't visually picture in your future. I completely believe that I visualized the woman I'm with now just by focusing on what she would be and look like until I found her. Your mind is more powerful than you could imagine if your able to be consistent and patient with your thoughts.

Listen, here's whats happening. She's a girl, you're her friend. She thinks of you as a friend but has a flirty side and thats it. You are always there to her and respond to her so she thinks you are reliable and wonderful, but i'm sorry thats it.

You are right. Plus, one should never accept a texting relationship from anyone of the opposite sex. It is ridiculous and immature.

Tell her you are into her - in person ( I didn't do that and it was my mistake). Or you call her out on her little girl bullshit.

Pretty much the two options... or you keep being a bencher (how respectable is it, really?)

Thanks everyone. I'm seeing how ridiculous it really is. Standing by for someone who is a narcissist. Stupid. Waste. Of my time.

gotta back up Really People here- be careful with your assumptions! you may be right that she's a narcissist, but you may also be misreading the situation. Why not be an adult and talk to her about it? I can't count the number of times that guy friends (or who I thought were friends) of mine assumed I was into them when that thought never crossed my mind and I thought we were just being playful and friendly. I always wished they had just asked me about it so that we could clear up the misunderstanding and hopefully save the friendship, instead of them letting their assumptions create a whole bunch of problems that I didn't even know existed.