I want to fall in love

posted July 26th, 2015 at 7:33 PM

I've been seeing a guy for a short while, but I've known him for a few months. I like him so much already. He has so many qualities that I look for and we get along amazingly. He's the first guy with actual long term potential I've found since my divorce. I didn't even know I was lonely until I met him. When I'm with him it just feels right. My fear is that I'm getting ahead of myself because I want it so badly. I try to remind myself to just relax and let things happen, but it's so hard because all I want to do is be wrapped up in his arms. I want to be in an official, committed relationship with him. And I know it's too soon for that. I'm just so into him. I feel like I'm already starting to fall for him.

6 Comments

Steady Eddie

Jul 26, 2015 at 9:41pm

You're aware you may be getting ahead of the process...just enjoy the courtship and play it cool if you can. In fact, you must. If he's a great guy are you the only one he's dating?

How long

Jul 26, 2015 at 11:00pm

is a short while? Take it slow, the official, committed relationships take awhile so it's best to just relax and enjoy it.

@Steady Eddie

Jul 26, 2015 at 11:30pm

OP here, I sure hope I'm the only one he's dating. I'm quite confident that I am judging by his views on infidelity. We also have a couple mutual friends and I trust that they would fill me in if that's what he was doing or into.

I try so hard to play it cool. Try being the operative word.

never "want" to fall in love,

Jul 26, 2015 at 11:55pm

That's pretty much forcing yourself, yourself making you say you're in love, just to look good, and say "Oh i have a boyfriend, look at me, lets take facebook kissing pictures and hold hands walking down the street, cause im so alone." I Really really really really hope you're not like that. and im sure either does he, or maybe he even is. I dunno. hopefully you're both not like this. Take things slow. don't WANT love. i mean ya ok you can want it.. but blahhh this is more confusing to explain than I thought. O.o i dunno. whatever. do what you will.(Not that I can control anything you do, I'm just trying to give you advice, but I guess I pretty much suck at explaining love advice...) I know what I want to say just don't know how to word it...so whatever lol good luck. bye. -.-' this was a stupid comment but im gonna post it anyway. lol bye

Good luck to you

Jul 27, 2015 at 1:30am

I've felt that way a few times now and have been mostly disappointed. Nowadays, I don't expect much even when I feel quite strongly about someone. The good part is that I'm less stressed out about the relationship but I'm not as excited about my dates as I used to be.