Sad still

posted July 14th, 2015 at 2:16 AM

I left because he couldn't give me what i needed emotionally. I think about him every day and we had our issues but he was willing to be there and try. And now its too late and i will always wonder if i made the right choice.

7 Comments

Been there

Jul 14, 2015 at 7:47am

You made the right choice.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

irreconcilable

Jul 14, 2015 at 9:21am

This confuses me. If he was "willing to be there and try" what more can anyone ask for? What emotional needs was it impossible for this earnest man to fulfill? Are these needs being met elsewhere?

It's too late

Jul 14, 2015 at 9:57am

Forget him. Look for someone else.

Gerry

Jul 14, 2015 at 3:11pm

People who expect their spouse to be their happiness will never find it and will mess the other person up with their bullshit. Be happy yourself and just love and enjoy your spouse without expecting them to be your happiness. That is the answer.

OP

Jul 14, 2015 at 4:18pm

I wasn't clear in my post but he couldn't communicate and would go out and drink all night when things got bad. He wasn't a bad person, it was just so hard sometimes. He tried in his own way but we were broken.

What was your part?

Jul 15, 2015 at 9:40am

Whenever I see someone pointing out another's flaws I immediately have to ask the same questions. How did you fail to communicate? How did you break the relationship? How did you not meet his emotional needs? I'm willing to bet the issue lies within.

@whatwasyourpart

Jul 15, 2015 at 6:18pm

Oh, I blame myself too. Trust me. Hence the regret. I have not been easy on myself for the past 6 months. It is way harder forgiving myself for my role in our breakup. I just have to believe that my instincts were right. We were not a good fit. It still hurts like hell wondering what if...