Virgin Dilemmas

posted July 30th, 2015 at 12:30 PM

So I'm a virgin in my mid twenties. My whole life I've been waiting to have sex with someone who I could potentially fall in love with (mutually), and who I feel 100% comfortable with. I wanted my first time to be super meaningful and special. HOWEVER, I'm at a point where I kind of just want to do it and get it over with. I guess I don't really feel that necessity to be in love/a relationship anymore. There's this mega babe who wants to sleep with me, and although I don't have feelings for him intellectually, and I don't see it turning into a relationship, a part of me just wants to do it with him. Maybe my first time with someone I'm not crazy for would actually be good. At least that way I wouldn't get my heart broken. I guess a part of me thinks if I sleep with him I'd be selling myself out or something (I'm also worried about getting an std since I barely know him and I don't know his dating history). I guess whatever happens happens…

7 Comments

Red Flag

Jul 30, 2015 at 1:10pm

OP, read those last two sentences out loud about ten times.

my first time...

Jul 30, 2015 at 1:31pm

was when I was 24. I waited until I was in love and totally hot for someone on all levels. It was such a good decision to wait. It was a wonderful experience, and also set me up to feel empowered and in control of my sexuality, my body, and my romantic life. Don't rush into anything! There is no hurry. In the meanwhile, enjoy your own body. ;)

Whatever happens...

Jul 30, 2015 at 2:53pm

Our health care system will be there to treat my herpes, deliver another unwanted child into this world and after many years of psychological therapy allow me to realise how foolish and naive I was being a "virgin".

Oxytocin

Jul 30, 2015 at 6:08pm

is a powerful drug. You might fall in love with him after you've done the deed, because you can't fight biology. And if he's not into you, can you handle getting your heart broken?

OP

Jul 30, 2015 at 6:54pm

Thanks guys. I guess I'm just frustrated because I feel like I'm finally ready, and wanting, to have sex…I've come out of my shell a lot the past couple years, I feel confident and comfortable with myself and my body, etc. But the catch is there still isn't that "special someone" in my life that I'm head over heals for. Just growing impatient is all, but I guess I'll keep waiting for now…

I was in my mid twenties too

Jul 31, 2015 at 6:59am

I won't suggest anything; instead, I'll say that everything worked out wonderfully.

try girls

Jul 31, 2015 at 10:47am

They way more attractive and the chance of catching something is near zero PLUS you won't get pregnant.
If you say that you're straight, remember: most bi females started out being just straight. Then they realized how much better sex is with their own gender.

Be careful if you do take the plunge with this guy, because what Oxy wrote is true. Or to put it bluntly: When we open our legs, we (often) open our hearts.