Weekends

I hate when people at work ask me what I did over the weekend. Most of my weekends are spent doing pretty much nothing because that is my time to decompress after a busy week, which is just the way I like it. Yet it doesn't seem like an acceptable response to say this to people without them thinking I'm lazy or a loser with no social life. I choose to spend my weekends like this. I could go out if I wanted to, but I usually don't. And I get exhausted just hearing about people who's weekends are jam-packed with activities - I think I'd lose my mind if I did that. I've accepted that I'm probably a weirdo, but it sucks to be reminded of this every week when about 20 different people ask you this every Monday morning. Uggh ...

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Makes Sense

Jul 6, 2015 at 5:07pm

It also sucks when you work 60+ hours a week with the same small group of people and then you're obligated to attend one of their homes on a holiday. Seriously, they're the last people I wanna spend my free time with. I don't even care anymore what they think of me when I refuse to spend yet another day with them. Bitches.

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JGeo99

Jul 6, 2015 at 5:24pm

llol its just small talk, coworkers trying to make conversation , is all. i hate small talk. it's awkward sometimes like in your case. but i know what you mean. it's nice to just wind down and do nothing at all on the weekend.

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Sensitive much?

Jul 6, 2015 at 5:55pm

I occasionally ask my co-workers if they got up to anything over the weekend, but think no less of them if they say "Just relaxed." I often respond the same way if they ask me.

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Craig Takeuchi

Jul 6, 2015 at 5:57pm

Are you an introvert?
Introverts become drained by a lot of activity and interaction with others, and seek solace to recharge.
Extroverts, in contrast, draw upon energy from others or being involved in things so they tend to seek out stimulation.
If you looked into the subject more, it might help you understand why you behave the way you do and not feel bad about it.

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NoFunWeekend

Jul 6, 2015 at 6:02pm

So,how was your weekend? Get out of your house,you don't have to interact with anyone if you don't want to.Here's what I did.I went to the racetrack and bet on the horses-no luck there.I wandered around town smiling at and talking to ladies-no luck there either. I went home to stare at the North Shore mountains from my balcony but no luck there either-couldn't see the mountains because of all the smoke from the forest fires.I'll do it again next weekend.I hope the smoke clears up. Cheer up.

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Lighten up

Jul 6, 2015 at 6:56pm

They're only asking to be friendly and make polite conversation. I'm pretty certain nobody cares if you choose to stay at home, but they will care if you blow them off because you're convinced they will judge you. Don't be THAT person in the office

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Marathon

Jul 6, 2015 at 7:20pm

Tell them you did a marathon on the weekend. They don't have to know it was a Netflix marathon.

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Know what you mean

Jul 6, 2015 at 7:57pm

Flaking out and doing literally nothing seems alien to most people these days.

I too like doing nothing sometimes. Our weekends are our own; we should do as we please.

I absolutely hate too those who gush with superlatives every Monday. It's so phoney. How can you possibly have the "best weekend" every weekend? Lies!

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Don't feel bad

Jul 6, 2015 at 9:19pm

I'm the same way. All you gotta say is…"I do the same thing every weekend. Just relax, I don't really like to go out that much" Why hide what your preference is? That's like asserting to yourself and others that there is something wrong with what you are doing. And there isn't. So just rock it.

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Natty

Jul 6, 2015 at 9:40pm

@ OP: Just tell anyway who asks that you were relaxing. No need to go into detail.

@ craig: This whole labeling people introvert/extrovert is getting out of hand. Maybe in this case the OP does fall nicely in one of those boxes, but not everyone works that way.

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