diagnosed eccentric

When I was little, I was a bit of an odd fish. I never made friends easily. I was always picked on. My interests were anything but typical for either a boy my age or an adult even unless one was a professor. My mother had me assessed by a child psychologist, who quickly slapped the extremely high functioning Aspergers label on me. While mum I think wanted to understand me because she loved me and worried about how I'd grow up, one thing she did in the process of that was make it publicly known to my teachers, family members, her friends. While for her, a label gave her an answer, for me it was like it slapped me with a huge burden like as though I were mentally challenged, and I've never forgotten that. It stings. My sister and dad treated like shit because of it. Fast forward the clock, I'm now in my late 20s, I live on my own, I have a job of my own where my strange talents and personality are put to great use, I did up until May have a phenomenally forgiving and loving girlfriend, and poor old mum... unfortunately died from cancer. It took me years to ever admit what I had, by myself, to only one person. Things haven't come easy for me, and while I'm out to lunch more often than not, I wish I should show her and those who thought of me as a freak how strong I turned out. Yes, I need time, help, patience sometimes because I process my world differently from others and generally fly solo. When I'm alone with my own thoughts, I can get scared, be irrational, or just experience the same feelings everyone else has on everything from romance to grieving. I'm far from perfect and I'm sorry to those who my sometimes Picasso paining-like logic has either unimpressed or broken the heart of, but for what it's worth, please let me be me. Guide me and get to know me but don't give up on me. It may take me a bit to reach my potential in the colourful way with which I go about life, and sometimes I'm a bitch to deal with, but give me a chance (or two, or three) and you won't regret it.

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geeknomad

Aug 31, 2015 at 3:34pm

You are fortunate to have found your way, despite the label. Many in the developed world never do.

Luck works in mysterious ways. I spent my very early years in a country with a primitive medical system. A case of ADD, Asperger's or other HFA would have attracted little more than beatings, at least for children of the "proletariat". Odd kids were just odd, not broken, flawed or sick. That precluded early diagnosis, and allowed me some time to adapt and come to terms with my wiring and neurochemistry.

By the time this sort of thing was categorized, stigmatized, stereotyped and medicated, I was able to blend into the population...mostly.

If you ever move to another country, try not to bring this part of your medical history with you. Foreigners are allowed to be weird everywhere. Perhaps you can get a genuinely fresh start, especially if your talents are very useful, and you're fluent in English. People allow a lot of slack for the educated, talented and capable.

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APerson

Aug 31, 2015 at 4:19pm

What happened here is by making it widely known she allowed the label to define you, and that's not fair. You are more than a label, every human is. It should have been a secondary thought to her, you are a human being first. I'm sorry you had to experience this. It's wonderful that you accomplished so much and are able to live a mostly fulfilling life. Sounds like you've accepted yourself for who you are which is also great! If people don't want anything to do with you because of it, just move on, they're not worth your time. Anyone who is worth your time will be willing to work with you, and to even help you out where possible. They will see you for who you are. Those are the people to keep around. Different isn't a bad thing. Embrace your oddities, they make you unique.

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