But that person sounds exactly like me. I used to be such a loving and caring person but somehow managed to become some jackass who uses women for sex at bars and clubs then leaves. I had stopped for a while but now Im right back to the sleeping around and drinking to much and smoking too much pot to make myself numb to the reality that who I used to be is lost, I have been hurt too many times and hurt others first before they can hurt me. I want to get back to who I once was but just like who I became its not something that can happen over night. I guess what Im trying to say is, if this person was once a good soul they still have it in them to be good they just need to hit rock bottom to realize it and hopefully change their ways before its too late....

Thanks for sharing that @thisishardtoadmit. I totally believe that to be true. To be honest, the person I'm speaking about hasn't been in my life for years, so I don't really know where they're at within themselves and whether it's a matter of hitting rock bottom.
However, I've had to hit rock bottom myself in order to come back to my true self and continue on the path of self-growth as an integral part of my being. So I definitely know that it's possible to change who you are and how you behave, at any point in your life. I hope that you find the strength within yourself and support from loved ones around you (who are more like the person you used to be/want to be) to make the changes that you want to make in your life.

my life was/is an endless series of confusion and messes (thats an awkward word) and somehow I got lost along the way. and now, after too many mistakes I am getting to know my self and how important the things i lost were (insert Joni Mitchell song here)
(the jokes were an attempt balance the melodramatic tone)

Maybe he's dating someone else? I don't talk with women i've slept with before when i'm seeing someone else.

We were like first loves (well, at least he was to me!)... he stopped speaking to me just few months after the break up (and he was the one who wanted to still remain friends), never spoke to me again. I've seen him once in the flesh since (yeeears later), I said hi, we hugged - and it was awkward and over that fast. I saw him once more over a year later in a coffee shop (just last week) and we both pretended not to see each other, though we both definitely saw each others.

It's just surprises me how people can just cut people out forever, not giving them the time of day especially when it's been YEARS and never having ended on bad terms.

I don't know, I would rather be curious and at least have a few minutes of catch up and see who we are rather than just be immature and cold (but I guess I'm now guilty of that too after last week). Ultimately it just doesn't makes sense to me, but it seems like he needed to do that for himself for some reason. I just wish I was privy to that reason. I would at least tell someone respectfully why I was cutting contact.