something is happening...

So I hear people talking about how they approached (or were approached by) someone at a bar, or on the street and they just sparked up a conversation and then either became friends with the person, or maybe even something more. And I can't help but find that idea so foreign to me ! I'm a pretty chill guy, very approachable and likeable. I'm also very good looking, work out regularly and have a nice body. I feel pretty confident with myself, and I'm not, in anyway, arrogant or cooky. I like to chat with people...I know not a lot of people do in this city, which I find totally weird, but anyway. But Every time I'm at a coffee shop, or on the street or on the sky train and I spark up a conversation with a girl, I get the most awkward responses and looks ever!! ... and I don't get why ! I don't get to close to invade anyone's bubble space, I simply smile and talk about the whether or some recent event on the news, and all I get is weird looks and one-word answers... I'm starting to think its me...but I don't really know what I'm doing wrong here.....

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Keep on...

Aug 4, 2015 at 3:00pm

...doing what you're doing. Most of us would be very happy to have a likeable, good looking, chill guy chat us up.

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It's called

Aug 4, 2015 at 3:05pm

The Vancouver Freeze... It's not you.

Hopeless wanderer

Aug 4, 2015 at 3:23pm

Awww, I'd love to be approached by a guy like you. I find the conversation itself is easy enough to strike up (I'm friendly and chatty too) but getting from there to the suggestion of let's do this again and actually exchanging numbers is the real challenge.

red hendrix

Aug 4, 2015 at 4:05pm

Unfortunately, a lot of women, myself included, are very skeptical of men. It's sad but many times I've had a conversation that went from, "go local sports team!" to "you're a f*ing b*tch!"
Obviously not all men are terrible creeps but it's hard to let our guard down. I guess all you can do is keep being your kind and charming self and hopefully you'll be able to break down some walls.
Best of luck!

It's not you...

Aug 4, 2015 at 4:48pm

People so rarely talk to strangers in vancouver that when someone actually does it can catch people off guard and they don't know how to engage back. I've had the same thing happen to me lots of times (I'm a gal), but I don't take it personally. I'm also a dog owner and I find the easiest people to strike up a random conversation with are other dog owners, but maybe it's because the pups break the ice. And agree with Wanderer- it's fairly easy to chat, but impossible to move it past that! Don't let it change what you're doing, Van needs more people willing to put themselves out there with just a friendly vibe and no other expectations :) good luck!

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Steady Eddie

Aug 4, 2015 at 4:59pm

Clique-ism
Just keep at it bud, at least you're trying to connect, gotta give you props for that

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I'm calling BS

Aug 4, 2015 at 6:29pm

Make video of this. Post on Youtube. If real. You must be butt-uggly. But even uggly get sympathy smiles so I don't konw.

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It ain't you

Aug 4, 2015 at 6:54pm

I'm used to chatting to strangers and love it. Especially when it's just for fun and no agenda behind it. Problem is, Vancouverites aren't very warm to strangers and will make you feel out of place for being friendly. Keep trying. You're likely to catch a gal from out of town who isn't scared off by a conversation and appreciates the attention. I know I would!

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Ur welcome

Aug 4, 2015 at 9:26pm

They're probably nervous cuz ur hot. Dress down or say something stupid. Not horrible, just awkward. Normal people love awkward it makes someone so much more approachable

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@It ain't you

Aug 4, 2015 at 10:42pm

I am a Vancouverite, and I love talking to strangers, even tho we all learn in sd. 39, in gr. 1, about "stranger danger." And we're all so smart, we _remember_ it!

You know that strangers only talk to people to molest them, right?

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