Best of both worlds

posted September 2nd, 2015 at 8:24 AM

I was a REALLY ugly kid. When I was growing up I remember seeing all my friends talking to girls and laughing with them, while I was in a corner completely scared of socializing because I felt, and was very unattractive. My peers at school always made fun of me and as sad as it sounds, I accepted my ugliness and all of the rejection that came with it. I was incredibly skinny, with pimples all over my face, brazes and glasses...and no, I'm not kidding or exaggerating. My family and I immigrated here when I was in my early teen years, and after a year of living in Canada things started to change - I'll explain. My mother is probably one of the most beautiful and elegant women in the South American country where we come from. My father, on the other hand, isn't terribly attractive, but is very elegant, well educated, and a complete and total gentleman - Imagine people's reactions and comments whenever they met my mother, and then saw me as her child! Anyway, after coming to Canada I started to physically change. It was finally time to get my brazes off, and I ended up with perfectly straight, white teeth. I started to eat better and my skin changed from filled with pimples, to resembling the porcelain - like one my mother had. I got laser surgery in my eyes, and stopped wearing glasses. I became interested in the gym and started to lift and eat more and eventually grew into a muscular body. After a few years, my body had finished transforming and had finally settled into the physical appearance I enjoy today. My face had drastically changed to resemble the delicate features of my mother but with the masculinity of a man. I started to notice how I was suddenly the object of constant praise for my good looks and muscular body. At first I thought people were simply being polite when they complimented me, but then it became so constant that my confidence level started to increase slowly. With time I simply became more and more attractive, and random, prolonged smiles and stares from both men and women became a daily occurrence. However, my personality never changed. I inherited my father's intelligence and gentleness and kept a lot of the shyness I developed as a kid. I enjoy the attention - I mean, who wouldn't, but I have never been arrogant about my physical appearance. I have never made anyone feel unworthy or me, nor do I have it in me to make someone feel bad because of how they look. I became so incredibly sensitive to human suffering, I assume because of the rejection and humiliation I experimented for years, that I am able to empathize with literally any person. I enjoying talking to homeless people, opening doors for them, smiling at men and women who, in my opinion, probably don't receive a lot of smiling and simply being as courteous and humble as I possibly can. I realize that due to the details mentioned above, it might not seem like humility is my motto, but I wanted to share my journey, and the backstage of my confession. I confession that the thing that brings me the most joy in life is making people, who are different, or rejected or categorized as unattractive, feel acknowledged, desired, important and worthy. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and can not believe that I was fortunate enough to go through what I went through, and then change as much as I did and experiment this completely different side of life :)

8 Comments

Oy Gevalt

Sep 2, 2015 at 10:28am

" ... it might not seem like humility is my motto ... "

do ya think?

Michele Baillie

Sep 2, 2015 at 11:46am

Out of suffering and hardship, can Compassion and Love bloom.
(smiles)

lookatme

Sep 2, 2015 at 12:25pm

Every morning when I get up to wash my handsome face and brush my perfect teeth I make cute faces in the mirror.Later,when I strut down the street I admire myself in every store window I pass.And when the poor,unattractive and miserable people gasp with envy of my superb physicality I bless them with a gentle smile.

I can relate

Sep 2, 2015 at 3:12pm

I'm a woman. When I was younger, I was very skinny and awkward/geeky looking as well. Although I was never ugly, I was nothing special compared with my sisters and friends. It wasn't until age 23 that my health improved and I started to have curves. I've grown to be more attractive and confident over the years. However, because I never received any compliments or attention from men for many years, I'm still very shy around very attractive and confident men. I always think they must be attracted to me because I'm smart and successful or maybe even my personality. I don't want to believe it's because of my looks because there are so many very beautiful women that these guys could have. I'm not very attracted to 'conventionally attractive' men anyways. My type is more the goofy, sweet average guy next door who makes me feel comfortable being myself. :) These days, I'm happy that I'm not more attractive than this because I'm not comfortable with a lot of attention. I cannot imagine what the very beautiful women and men must go through every day. I'm happy to be invisible sometimes. :)

Thanks for posting

Sep 2, 2015 at 8:57pm

To the OP, I commend you for not letting it get to your head and still holding true the values that you learned as a 'nobody'. You are a 'have' who understands what it's like to be a have not - that is deep and balanced stuff there bro. Keep living your way man! Just reading your post makes up for all the self-absorbed Alpha-tards out there looking down on peeps and being dicks.

@ relate
You remind me of a very beautiful young woman I know (but not well enough). She's the kind I would previously never have consider approaching but when I met her she displayed such a kindness from within emanating from her eyes (and she genuinely looks you in the eyes when you converse with her...so nice) - I was seriously in awe. Later on (just before she rejected my timid proposal haha) she told me she was a late bloomer and I immediately knew that she understood life as a bit un-noticed and kind of where I'm coming from. She is honestly the most beautiful woman I've ever met and it's because of who she is on the inside more so than how she looks on the outside (which is dead gorgeous!). She displays not a hint of self-absorption, conceitedness and I can tell she never looks down on us regular joes. I just know she has a big heart that's full of compassion and understanding. Even though I'll never have the opportunity to know everything about her - as I had dearly wanted (still do) - I will never forgot how she treated me when I met her, when I unsuccessfully asked her out, and the last time I saw her - I've just never felt so respected and engaged by such a beautiful woman before. It's nice to know she's not the only one out there with this rare combination of beauty and humility...thanks for posting your female viewpoint :)

You're looking at yourself in your peak

Sep 2, 2015 at 9:54pm

...and like all humans, your physical self will change again with time. You're in bloom, as they say. It is beautiful when people (both men and women) are in their bloom. But in time, you will change. Look at any beautiful person from the past: Brigette Bardot, Brad Pitt, etc. And look at how time has changed their outside. Keep your character, as that will be your most enduring trait that time cannot erode.

Hey OP

Sep 2, 2015 at 10:16pm

Are you single?

OP

Sep 3, 2015 at 12:34am

Wow! thanks guys for all the nice comments. Even the not so nice ones made me smile :). @ Thanks for posting: thanks mate. I'm sure there are plenty of girls with beauty and humility around, and I'm sure one of them is for you - Everyone has their other half somewhere. @Hey OP: I am not single. Have been in the most amazing relationship for the past year and a half..and I'm madly in love :)

Cheers guys!