The hard reality (I am a single parent myself), is that that dating pool gets limited. There are a ton of questions that come up, what role if any, do you play in the other kids lives? What about the ex'es, is there drama? It goes on and on. On top of that, if things get serious, and you live together or get married, child support can become an issue too if there's a split down the road.

For me, it's about keeping things very casual and keeping the kids out of it until you know there's something there. My ex has had several new boyfriends and it confuses the hell out of the kidlets when they aren't around anymore and mom has another new guy. She finally learned, only after some hard but innocent questions from the kids. I have to really like you and it has to be a few months in at least before you are getting any time at all with the kids.

To be honest, I would not but its simply because I want my own kids. If the single mom in question was willing to have more then I would be ok with dating her.

Why would it be a responsibility? The guy wouldn't be their parent. His only responsibility is to not compete with the kids.

Why on earth would a man want to date a single mom? You have two kids meaning the man is automatically #3 to you. Why would a man choose to do that when there are plenty of other great woman with no kids.

Further, the guy that would date you now has to inevitable pay for and contribute to another mans mistake.

Not that im saying you are like this, but a lot of single moms chose to have a kid even though the father said he would prefer to not have a a kid (hence being single). That is a HUGE re flag for a man HUGE.

When I date a woman I want to travel, go for dinners, be spontaneous, etc etc. All things you cant do with kids.

No thanks. Never.

Not in a million years... Even if you were the most compatible person for me. It's too much and i don't date single mom's.

Not many, but you only need one right?

It's harder to go into a relationship knowing that if you break up you would be losing a woman to whom you have become attached plus some kids with whom you have bonded, and then there is the constant judgement and panic of overprotective parents who freak out every time some kid yells "you're not my daddy" at the playground (it happens!). Then there is having to switch from hanging out with your friends to babysitting more often than not.

So what's the upside? I don't know. I have had to think about this in the past and for me there wasn't an any but everyone has their own idea of what they want, so good luck!

@never

"another mans mistake"

If you think children are a "mistake", single moms, as well just about everyone else, are better off without you. A child is a person. Anyone who ever refers to a child as a "mistake" is an asshole.

Sex once or twice and that is it.

I'm a chick, but my mother had me and got remarried when the sperm donor of a father of mine hit the bricks. My mom is/was a real catch, though. Beautiful, educated, she had a lot to offer. When I was a kid in elementary school, all the kids used to tell me "Your mommy's so pretty!" whenever she had to come to my class for some reason. I think the important thing is what do you bring to the relationship apart from being a *single mom*? I was also a good kid, shy, able to keep myself occupied in the days when tv still had like, 3 channels. I was not a brat, so that's important too. If a man is going to take on a ready made family, he has to be able to visualize how he fits into the picture.

Pretty sure we "dated." You messaged me through online dating, well aware that I was a parent...claimed to be looking for a family, said all the right things for about 5 dates until we actually had sex. It was then that you hit the bricks. Classy. In the real world, you're what we call "a manipulator." Also, "liar" and "douchebag" come to mind. I'm glad my kids never knew of your existence. They think I'm pure as the snow. Hope one day you find a conscience!