I have been in the exact situation. it's best not to value the amount of men who talk to you, its the quality of the conversation, furthermore, you and your sister may have similar taste in men, but probably not the same. I don't know what I did, i guess I am now happy for her and recognize my own success, as well as that some people feel that way in terms of me being the more outgoing, socially attractive one. you never know, she might admire you.be stoked on who you are, you're not living in anyone's shadow and I assure you, your sister nor anybody else think of you as a charity case

Aaaw, I feel for you girl. This reminds me of when I was out with my older bro in the old days The ladies just gushed at him and I was like not even present. He has 'it' and I got none of it, that much is obvious. Unlike you, I'm not close to my bro and we didn't hang out much anyway. Didn't make me feel too bad, more so felt like "you lucky son-of-a"..."damn!"
I'm sure you're no 'shittier' version of your sister. I'll bet you're pretty sweet once you open up and feel comfortable being yourself around a guy. Some of us guys prefer the shy and mysterious ones, trust me.

you have a sister~

Wow. This exact piece could have been written about my sister and I. I am the older, and more outgoing one, but we are the exact same as you describe. It's really hard, and I would encourage you to go out on your own a bit. My sister and I can have co-dependency issues with each other on account of being so close, and it makes it hard for both of us to be our own person. The difficulty doubled when all of your friends/family treat you like the same person. But no matter how similar you are, you are both different people, and you will need time apart (even if it's just a little bit every week) to start figuring out where you end and she begins. I am still working through it, and I won't lie, it's tough as fuck. Family troubles are always the toughest, because they are the most ingrained.
Just know that you are super rad, and you both have things to offer the world!

Your sister attracts the sort of men she's interested in and compatible with, and vice versa. You just need to go out to different places and meet the different kinds of guys that are right for you.

I was in a similar situation in that my sister was the the most outgoing and attractive one while I was shy and nerdy even though I was a bit older. All the guys would go after her and ignored me. In my case, we're not just different in personality, we also don't look much alike. While growing up and living at home I felt a bit trapped, like I couldn't get out of my shell and become who I wanted to be. Eventually things became better for me, thankfully. I opened up and became more attractive over time. Now, I think we're both attractive in different ways. I don't think a guy who's attracted to one of us would be attracted to the other, and also our tastes in men are quite different as well. We have a strong sisterly bond so I wasn't worried any guy would come after us anyway. However, I think I wasn't happy with who I was, and really wanted to become more independent and confident. So, I've worked hard on my career, and been living in another city for a couple of years. I've also had the opportunity to meet many different people in new situations, and grown as a result. I suggest you do the same. Now, I love myself and wouldn't wish I were different. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.

I'm not the only one who completely relates.

I am like you - quiet, introverted, prefer to be in the background... and my brother is like your sister - extroverted, gregarious, loves attention...

I used to feel like you, now i feel the opposite. The trick (for me anyway), was to discover, accept and celebrate my introversion - all of my quiet little oddities and creative 'isms'. These character traits that you see as negative, are actually very interesting and unique.

There are thousands of people out there just like your sister and my brother, but much fewer people like you and i. And when you crack open those extroverts, many if not most are exactly the same, or very very similar (also wonderful and kind in their own way). But that's why they find it so easy to relate and engage, because they are surrounded by like-minded others (extroverts). It is the quiet unassuming ones like you and i, that when cracked open, overflow with creativity, wisdom and much less self-centeredness.

Yes we're odd and perceived as misfits, but therein you get great passion and an emotional perception that is unique and different to most others. We break the mold. We simply don't need the audience for validation and entertainment, in fact we hate crowds and attention. I know i do.

The guys who approach your sister are also extroverts. You shouldn't be envious of that, you should be looking the other way, towards the back of the room, at the cute quiet guy sitting with a friend and who is just watching everybody. He's the hottie! He's the one who is fascinating and creative and would blow you away if either of you got past your shyness, off your tush and went to say hi!!

Advice: learn to love your introversion. Learn to admire your creativity and quiet reflection of the world rather than wishing you were more like most people, rather than the unique woman you are. AND, go say hi to the quiet enigmatic guy sitting in the shadows off to the side.

That was the best comment I've ever read on Confessions. Hands-down, you win. Truly great advice for the OP.